"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Mr. Anderson

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I'm a newbie here who's recently broken up with this gf. Well, she basically broke up with me. I was with this girl for a very long time (two years) and I must say, though devastated at first, I went through the DJ bible and I am glad the relationship is over. When I tried explaining this to people they looked at me funny and thought I was masking my emotions with a frail display of happiness; statements like "After two years?! Damn I'd be bummed." were thrown at me all the time (not the best comment). However, after discovering the lessons within sosuave.com I am really happy with the way things turned out.

In retrospect, I was a true AFC and my older woman was a lot more experienced than I so you can imagine how easily manipulated I was. I usually find myself going through posts on here where I laugh and say, "I did that! Damn I was stupid! *LOL*". But I've realized that everything is a learning experience in life. In fact, I am grateful that the hardships in my life have given me the opportunity to excel as a man and mature as one confident in his abilities. I've learned that I and no one else (surely not women) am responsible for my own happiness. From now on, the girl shall always come second. My goals, dreams, interests, hobbies, and friends will come first.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Mr. Anderson

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YES!!! I've been unplugged! LOL
 
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