"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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bluemanson

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Hi guys I would just like ur opinion. There's this girl I met. Great girl n perfect for me. Anyway I intro myself n things go great. We hit it off.

Time for the date. I ask her she says she has a bf, I say he can come along but he might be odd one there n she laughs.anyway a few days later she says her bf will be out of town. I say great when shud I come around. She says Wednesday. Closer to the time she makes excuses like she gona stay at her mothers. Thursday same thing.Friday she say I must go to a club with her. I say I'll be there but only if I get to be with her alone, she says the place is big n we will be alone. Anyway she asks bf n bf says she can go out. But then she flakes again saying she will feel guilty bla bla bla but she likes me a lot she says. We chating IM. Then she tells she can't control her self around n she don't wana cheat on her bf. I saqy fine but then we just be friends. She says ok cool. But the she goes n says how n what she will do to me wen we alone n all this crazy **** n she so horny right now etc etc. I play along. It was sexy lol. Anyway

But she don't wana cheat on her bf.

So what u guys think, I like her but she keep sayong she miss me but flaked on me thrice, do u stil think I got. A chance or how shud I play her game

Thanx for listening guys
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Tiguere

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You been here 3 years and still ignorant to the predicament you're in.
 

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1) Great girls don't flake.
2) Girls who are great for you don't have boyfriends.
3) Some girls are all text.
4) I would go NC until she is ready to see you in person.
5) There is a special character for those who don't want to type "and", it's '&'.
 

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I'm on here long but haven't been on this site like forever man. I've lost touch.
Anyway I'll see her monday
Maybe she is all text, I don't know but we will see.
I was just asking opinions not to be stomped on lol$
Thanx thou
 

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I see your points bluemanson - wasn't trying to appear as stomping. Good luck though - she obviously doesn't dislike you. If you wait it out with NC you might pounce at the right time.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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bluemanson said:
Hi guys I would just like ur opinion. There's this girl I met. Great girl n perfect for me. Anyway I intro myself n things go great. We hit it off.

Time for the date. I ask her she says she has a bf, I say he can come along but he might be odd one there n she laughs.anyway a few days later she says her bf will be out of town. I say great when shud I come around. She says Wednesday. Closer to the time she makes excuses like she gona stay at her mothers. Thursday same thing.Friday she say I must go to a club with her. I say I'll be there but only if I get to be with her alone, she says the place is big n we will be alone. Anyway she asks bf n bf says she can go out. But then she flakes again saying she will feel guilty bla bla bla but she likes me a lot she says. We chating IM. Then she tells she can't control her self around n she don't wana cheat on her bf. I saqy fine but then we just be friends. She says ok cool. But the she goes n says how n what she will do to me wen we alone n all this crazy **** n she so horny right now etc etc. I play along. It was sexy lol. Anyway

But she don't wana cheat on her bf.

So what u guys think, I like her but she keep sayong she miss me but flaked on me thrice, do u stil think I got. A chance or how shud I play her game

Thanx for listening guys
Judge nismo has reviewed this horrid case and cannot believe the defendant thinks he still has a shot.

AFAIC great girls do not flake. They will move mountains to see you. She's teasing you and making these bullsh*t excuses for not wanting to see you. All in the hopes that you will get the hint that...

SHE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!!!


You are guilty of Failure to move forward, patronizing dikteasing, and failure to make the vagina tingle. The fine for this is 2 blue balls, 1 bruised penis, 1 stressed mind, and a trip to Uninteresting Mountain, Colorado.

Move on, but your princess is in another castle.

Case closed.
 

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I disagree with the other guys. She simply wants to be certain you're not going to go off and tell everyone about her dirty deeds, IMO. She obviously wants you. I'm 90% this chick WILL cheat on her bf with you. Make it clear that you guys are just friends (she has a bf anyway).

I wouldn't recommend going further than a fuk buddy with this girl. If she cheats on her current bf with you cause he's probably boring and you bring way more to the table, she'll probably do it to you too. This is a good opportunity you have in your hands. Girls don't just talk about how they will rape your for no reason.

Get in touch with her and tell her she owes you for the times she has cancelled. Make sure you tell her "What are the chances of you flaking on me? I rather not make plans if there's a possibility, because I'm changing my schedule to fit our hangout in. Once you're out with it, escalate little by little and once you're at your place escalate further and you'll bang her.
 

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1. Be patient. Let her come and go as she pleases. If she wants to stick around then great. If she doesn't you better have options and something more interesting to do. It's none of her business what you do so keep your mouth shut. She's not your wife and therefore not privy to a damn thing. There's a nice way to phrase it.

2. Stop giving a damn and let this woman in your head. You are obviously too wrapped up in this. Control yourself, control your mind.

3. Don't invite her anywhere and don't make plans. If she wants to see you, she will find a way. You don't reward a girl who flakes and wastes your time. Be cool and let her go about her business, but it's unwise to shower her with affection and effort on your part while she flakes and offers nothing in return. Don't reward people who waste your time.

4. If she wants to be friends then why not? You're too focused on this girl and what you want from her. If friendship is all that she can offer then I say take it. She might have attractive friends and it always helps to have an attractive girl with you when you're somewhere. Nothing attracts women like other women.

Be smart and use what you have available.
 

bluemanson

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Thanks guys, Il just be cool and just be me but i will not make a move but i will escalate when the time comes.
If she wants me she can come and get me :)

Thanks
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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