great girl, awful sex

[starplus]

so i'm really not the relationship type or atleast haven't been for the past few years as i've been more into just going out and partying as much as possible but i've been seeing this girl for the past couple months and i really like her more then any girl i've met in years but the sex is just bad with her and yes i've tried teaching her how to do stuff right but i'm now about ready to give up shes just too boring when it comes to sex, doesn't give good head or anything

side note: it could be that i just enjoy one night stands with girls i just met more but i do want this one to work out and besides the sex i have yet to find 1 single thing about her that i don't like but this is really starting to turn the mood on the relationship

i originally expected the sex to be better then with most girls since i liked her more or we and being a very sexual person not saying thats the only thing that matters or anything but its sort of a very key thing thats missing here ... i know a simple alternative would be to find a girl on the side just for sex but i wanna stay away from that for once and try to have a meaningful relationship

so anyone have a similar experience and if so what did you do?

 

[niceguydying]

Man, I really want to give you advice that will be mindfukin blowing, but not sure I can. However, I did date a virgin for a couple of months. She was very nice looking and had a booming a$$ body. Only one problem, well two. 1) Boring as hell 2) Sex was like you described, but possibly worse!! I also was having buddy sex with an ex girlfriend at the time and that sex was ON POINT!!! Which made the boring girl's sexually efforts that much worse.

It really all depends on how well you like the girl and how she treats you. Now, if you answer the affimative in both of the above points you have to ask yourself are you willing to be patient? Are you willing to be?

If it were me and I dug the hell out of a girl, I would at least try and give more time. With the case I gave you about me, I just couldn't handle being with a boring women. So I didn't give her enough time to see if she would improve. Could be your girl is not experienced, I do not recall you saying how many partners she might have had. In my case, she was a VIRGIN before we had sex which explained a hell of a lot.

Finally, if it does not improve within a few more months you may just have yourself a dead lay. Then this could create more problems with you breaking the heart of somewhere you care about. No it isn't about being an AFC, it is about treating someone the way you want to be treated. You didn't say how she was bad other than giving bad head. How is she bad? No offense to you, but sometimes to have a good student you have to be a good teacher. Best of luck to you!

 

[LaoDa]

I had a gf that was horrible in bed.. it was so bad i thought I had erectile issues but then we broke up and all was back to the normal cause the subequent girls were great... but anyways.. if the girl is a great girl and you really really like her I think the best thing to do is to just sacrifice the mind blowing sex and be with a girl that cares about you and one that you care about.. no games nothing ...cause sex is great but its not more important than personal happiness and the feeling you have when you know the girl you are with is probobly the best girl out there.

 

[comote]

We are men, aren't we supposed to take the lead when it comes to sex? As long as she wants to please you then there are ways to help her do that.

Tell her what you like . . . Don't tell her you don't like something but you can say
"hey babe, you know it really turns me on when you . . . "

You can(and should be) very specific in the above statement.

Also do for her the closest thing to what you want her to do for you. Ask her what she likes. If you have your gf cumming every time you have sex with her, she will bend over backwards to please you.

You should try and mix it up yourself. Once she realizes what she likes she will be more able to understand what you might like.

If she is not willing to do things to please you then I'm sorry then she is just not that great a girl, or she isn't crazy about you.

 

[Impact]

We are men, aren't we supposed to take the lead when it comes to sex? As long as she wants to please you then there are ways to help her do that.

Tell her what you like . . . Don't tell her you don't like something but you can say
"hey babe, you know it really turns me on when you . . . "

You can(and should be) very specific in the above statement.

Also do for her the closest thing to what you want her to do for you. Ask her what she likes. If you have your gf cumming every time you have sex with her, she will bend over backwards to please you.

You should try and mix it up yourself. Once she realizes what she likes she will be more able to understand what you might like.

If she is not willing to do things to please you then I'm sorry then she is just not that great a girl, or she isn't crazy about you.

I think it's the best piece of advice you could be given!!!

 

[Hitman10000]

Try turning your "good girl" into a wh0re slut and let her know you enjoy that but if she's still pruding it could be a tell tale sign that she's not that all into you or vice versa. Bad or Good sex is usually a deal breaker whether you want to keep seeing someone or not see someone, I mean that's why some of us are in relationships : To have sex with another person.

And it's not because the girl is a virgin especially if she has access to the internet/television, virgins have seen enough porn/sex on movies to fantasize what sex is like, if you're not into her and she's not into you and the sex sucks... stop. I like my woman to let me dominate her, but if she's lying there like a dead animal or acts indifferent about the whole experience, she's outta there cause this is what you may put up with for a long time (given that you've had sex with her at least a couple times)

 

[Distant Light]

Try turning your "good girl" into a wh0re slut and let her know you enjoy that but if she's still pruding it could be a tell tale sign that she's not that all into you or vice versa.

Very good quote, but I wouldn't say she isn't into she is just not comfortable. That not giving head sh!t is so gay, I hate when girls try to do that. This is why when your approaching girls you got to put certain things in subtely.

I for one try to make sure I make the following things conveyed, "When it comes to sex we are allowed to let go of ourselves and go wild", "I expect you to act like my little *** slut when we are in bed", "Good sex is when it is sweat, sticky, and legs and arms are all over the place just feeling all over", "Sex is no big deal and is between me and the person having sex"

I also always screen for girls who don't give *******s, that way i know ahead of time if I have to get her to want to give me a *******, but she must be comfortable. One of the best ways I found to have better sex is being real dominant and aggressive, and talking real dirty before sex or even kissing occured. You have to get them so excited that they don't care and want to be submissive to your sexual demands, but make sure you deal with hers first that way she is in the mood.

I feel for you though, next time be real dominant and talk real dirty to her so she gets turned on