"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Grass is greaner and unsure

happyman2012

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My girlfriend is great, shes everything a bloke could ask for in a woman, and she loves me alot. The only thing bad I could say about her is that she is abit clingy sometimes and isnt much of a challenge, but Ive spoken to her about it and she understands and is willing to sort it.

Anyway, we were seeing each other for 3 months and have been officaly going out for 8, so a total of 11 months!

But out of nowhere I seem to be looking at other women and being interested in them. I think to myself id love to have sex with them and I want to talk to them. Looking at girls on facebook e.t.c.

Grass is greener syndrome perhaps?

I also feel unsure about how I feel towards her. It just come out of nowhere really.

Am I in the "unsure" stage of a relationship?

Ive spoken to my Dad about it and he said if I finish it I'll regret it because shes a brilliant girl and theres not many girls like her around.

He did the same thing with a girl he was going out with when he was younger and he still regrets it to this day (hes not with my mum and it wasnt my mum haha before her)

I do suffer abit with depression so I dont know if this is having a impact.
Sometimes I feel emotionlly numb. Sometimes it happens if I have spent too much time with her and not done anything else.

I think if I saw her with another bloke I would feel jealous.

All of this has been going round and round and round my head. Ive been over analysising and its making me worry about IF I dont actually like her anymore?!

Any thoughts?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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HyperAnalyze

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The only thing I have to say about this is that you should wait and see what the future holds.

I'm going to guess that you are really young. There are too many underlying problems that are too preposterous to answer.

But in short. No its normal if you are looking at other women. Like just the tale of the scorpion and the frog.
 

happyman2012

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haha Im 22, 23 in march. Im very grown up for my age as I had to move out at 17 so since then its been a steep learning cerve.

I have done all the partying and shagging about, its not as if this is my first "long term" girlfriend either, but in the past they turned out to be total *****es. I get a nice one and out of no where bang I feel like this!
 

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really I don't think moving out means you are any mature or would make you mature just for that event.

but on your problem what I can say is let time go looking around is ok, if possible try to spend a week without seeing her, if possible try to work hard this week so she ask why you tell her its a busy week and after work is done you want to rest, then see if you feel anything
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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