"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hey guys,

So I just started my first semester at a well-regarded MBA program and am getting settled into my routine, etc. After a few stressful weeks of orientation, classes, meeting new people, group projects, etc...things are calming down a bit, which is nice.

My question is, as I am 30 years old...some of the people are a bit younger than me (24-27 age range). That being said, many of them like to drink frequently and when they do, they go out HARD.

Myself, I have already lived that phase of my life in undergraduate and early/mid 20s, and while I still enjoy getting a nice buzz, having some drinks and chatting up some co-eds, it is more important to me to focus on my studies, getting good internships, and to elevate my health and fitness (bodybuilding, cardio, sports, etc). I love feeling in shape and the energy and focus that comes with it.

However, if Im constantly having to say "no" or tone down my drinking relatively when I go out, how can I still manage to hook up w/ some hotties (on campus or off campus in the city) if it seems most people around me are drinking to excess? I despise being hung over and wasting a day or 2 of my life recovering, as school is stressful/time consuming enough as it is.

I thought I would pose this question to the mature forum, to get the feed back from guys in their late 20s and beyond, how you guys manage to meet and greet the HBs in your area, without sacrificing the other areas of your life due to hangovers, lack of sleep, illness, etc etc that come with partying heavily.

Looking forward to some good responses, experiences and ideas.

best,

mike
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Julius_Seizeher

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You must advance beyond the trivial and wasteful lifestyles of people in their early 20s. Rather than play down to their juvenile level, lead them by being a man on the rise, and entice them to join you.

Do not fear growing up and becoming the shining example for these kids to follow.
 

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Julius_Seizeher said:
You must advance beyond the trivial and wasteful lifestyles of people in their early 20s. Rather than play down to their juvenile level, lead them by being a man on the rise, and entice them to join you.

Do not fear growing up and becoming the shining example for these kids to follow.

That sure sounds grand, but they arent going to give a sh!t.

Welcome to grad school Mike. The game definitely changes. I hear you about not wanting to go 'hard' when drinking; I love to get my buzz on but I'm not going to subject myself to an entire day of feeling like utter crap anymore. Been there done that.

You can hang with the younger crowd and get hammered (which you dont want), or you can hang with them and drink moderately (which would suck for you). You're going to have to find some people your age to socialize with. In my own experience I just do not click with most fresh-out-of-college girls. Different mindsets.
 

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turn up later than they do so you wont need to (and dont have time) to drink too much, they will be pretty drunk so wont notice you arnt drunk,

important you have the really fun vibe and no one will mind if you are a 'low'-drinker... but dont NOT hang out with them, you can still be the alpha man there

there was a guy in my MA class who was about 32/33 and he has really fun and had more life experience.... so everyone looked up to him, it was quite intersting seeing this and having an undertsanding of social dynamics...OP be like this guy
 

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Get your buzz...limit yourself to 2 or 3 drinks. Seek out others who do the same...if you can't find them, just go with the party slvts for sex until you do.

In a grad-school environment, there are probably others like you out there. But they're not going to seek you out...you have to come to them. Keep an eye out in your classes.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i find the older i get i realize that there is a time and place for everything.

Now ive been focusing on martial arts I have less time to sit around to smoke a joint or having a few drinks.

but yeah you are there, to study and better yourself..who cares about these kids and how much they party.
 
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