"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Grabbing life by the b@lls!!

jimjam

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 25, 2013
Messages
230
Reaction score
63
Hey everyone.

Wanted to brag or sing my praises or confirm what most already know. Self improvement, introspection, discipline and focus, hard work and you will acheworkive ANYTHING!!

ANYTHING!!

Some of you may know that I've had my share of struggles. Through hard work and determination I have overcome many od my demons. Specifically, through hard work and discipline I have

Remained clean and sober for 11.5 years
Started a side business and customers. Are beginning to trickle in
Began dating a new plate
Acheived the musculature of Bruce Lee
Maintained a positive attitude

I did all of these things. I DID THEM. Through my own will and effort. It feels fvcking awesome!! Like nothing else.

Just wanted to shout. Everything espoused here is true. #1 thing is to always remain focused on yourself and never stop improving. Hard work pays off. I'm 45, have MS and life is only getting better.

Thank you all

HOORAH!!!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

jimjam

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 25, 2013
Messages
230
Reaction score
63
This is probably the biggest potential problem, how are you dealing with this?
One day at a time. Was diagnosed in 2002. At that time I could just about stand up on my own. Since then I've tried to maintain positivity, first and foremost. Diet and excercise are 2nd. I've been lucky. I can run and play football with my 7 year old. Ha!

Nothing is guaranteed. I can walk today. Tomorrow isnt here. I'll deal wirh that when it happens.

One day at a time. Truthfully, getting MS was actually a good thing. It really caused me to think hard about all the time I wasted while drunk and high. Probably never would've never sobered up otherwise.
 

ubercat

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 6, 2015
Messages
3,671
Reaction score
2,309
Location
Australia
Mate bloody great going. The issues you have overcome make a lot of the guys problems here look trivial.
 

resilient

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 15, 2005
Messages
1,636
Reaction score
1,366
Keep it up man. Glad to hear things are going well.
 

Atom Smasher

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2008
Messages
8,656
Reaction score
6,611
Age
69
Location
The 7th Dimension
I love to hear of men overcoming illnesses, as I have severe Ulcerative Colitis. And I do mean severe.

Like you, jimjam, I'm not letting that stop me from overcoming anything at all in life. I want to be defined not by my illness, but by my handling life in spite of it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Top