Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Got this girl's number, but lost it...what do?

Genos

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So I had an impromptu dinner with a classmate of mine; afterwards I got her number. I had her enter it in my phone, and then we parted ways.

But uh, I kind of switched apps on my phone or something before saving it, and I lost her number. >__> Pretty lame, I know right?

We hardly run into each other (probably twice a month or something, but we've connected strongly whenever we do see each other), so I don't think waiting another 2 weeks or something to tell her I forgot her number is a good idea. She'll probably feel a little pissed if I got her number and then don't do anything with it.

However, for my university there's a student directory online where everyone's email is listed. Would it be creepy/too aggressive to email her in this way? In general, I'm very hesitant to contact women on forms of communication which she hasn't herself presented to me, but in this situation I feel like it's the right play. What do y'all think? Should I email her?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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redbaron5

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This is a no brainer. Wait the 2 weeks until you see her again. It is not that long of a period and will make you seem more attractive.
 

Genos

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Hm...I can see that it conveys a lot of indifference and that I'm not desperate (i.e. going out of my way to contact her), but at the same time I think there's an argument that waiting too long can be a negative, rather than a positive. There's a proper timeframe for when you initiate and contact a woman, right?

Also, I should've clarified that it's not really guaranteed that we'll see each other in 2 weeks - it was more of an approximation of the frequency with which we run into each other (we don't have any classes, activities, etc. together). So us meeting again is not necessarily guaranteed at all. Finally, next week is spring break, and we're both on campus (which was a big incentive for me getting her number) - it's the ideal hangout time.

Not to disregard your advice @redbaron, but is just moving on and forgetting about it still the right call, or is emailing her within reasonable bounds? Or would I simply be giving away too much power and conveying desperation if I emailed to ask for her number?
 

mangotot

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Email her. While you are ai it, go and get the numbers of other women.
 
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