Got the # to oneitis girl

[DJ1234]

Edit:I had met a girl I had oneitis for who is highly interested in me but I found out she had a bf so I kind of stopped contact with her. I did built rapport with her but never went for the digits because I was an AFC at the time. Eventually I lost all complete contact with her and have not seen her since. I had thought that she and her bf had broken up and I some how got her number through a friend.
So I called her and the conv. went something like this

Me: Hey is this _________ ?
Her: yea, whose is this?
Me: Hey whats up?
Her: nothing
Me: Are you doing anything right now?
Her: no, whose is this?!
Me: Do you have any idea who this might be?
Her: umm...no
Me: How about you guess
Her: Ummmm... I dont know
Her: how about you call me back and tell me who this is
Me: ok
*hang up*
*phone rings*
Me: hello?
Her:
hello?
*gives phone to her bf*
Him: hey I don't know who this is but don't ever call this phone again
Me: hang up SH*T!!!!!

Please read through the thread and the responses to determine what I should do please.

 

[PectoralisMajor]

she's gonna think your a 1st class stalker, and your going to freak her out with your little game.

*despairs*

I highly doubt anything will work, because you somehow got the number from a friend, and that is not the way to earn a number or a girls interest.

You need to build up some rapport with this girl first in person. The reason it sounds like you havnt done this yet is because otherwise you would have asked for the number yourself from her.

If you have to go along with calling cold, the only way I see you having a chance is to leave a voicemail if she doesnt answer and say something like ' hey x, this is dj1234. Y gave me your number, and I figured it might be cool to hang out sometime. I've got quite a busy schedule at the moment, but when you get a spare minute give me a call back on 123234556.'

chances of success on this one bearing in mind you lost contact with her, were never friends with her, and you never got the number yourself are prolly 3/10.

 

[DJ1234]

^
ive already built rapport with her in person, I use to talk to her everyday. She is interested in me but I didn't bother to get her number to just hang out because I didn't want to get into the LJBF zone. She told me she was just dating this guy and I didn't know how to respond because I was an AFC at the time and then somehow over time it got to be a relationship and they were "exclusive" which is when I stopped talking to her. Now she has broken up and I am ready to give her a call but just wanted to make sure if this conv. would be acceptable....
you're right though, I don't want to come off as a first class stalker as I already know where she lives too :nono:
frankly I don't think she would care since she is some what interested in me. thanks for your input...anyone else think the conv. will be good? I really want to call her..:nervous:

edit: btw...shes really popular and she only lives in the biggest house in my city. Just about everyone knows where she lives and she knows a lot of people so alot of people have her #, so its not exactly like I am actually stalking her just finding out about her indirectly through other people....

 

[Crank_It_Up]

since she is popular, the longer you wait, the more likely somebody with balls will beat you to the punch. Tell her who you are and that you heard she broke up with her boyfriend, and you think that's great since you always wanted to take her out on a date. Why waste time?

 

[DJ1234]

since she is popular, the longer you wait, the more likely somebody with balls will beat you to the punch. Tell her who you are and that you heard she broke up with her boyfriend, and you think that's great since you always wanted to take her out on a date. Why waste time?

EXACTLY!!!!!!! The thing is I am very very Fing NERVOUS!!!! :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous:
I am just going to text her right now...

 

[DJ1234]

OH SH*T I just called her and her bf which I thought had broken up with her picked up and said don't ever call back again! OMFG!!! I feel like sh*TTTT :cuss: :cuss: :cuss: :cuss: :cuss: :cuss: :cuss: :cuss: :cuss:

 

[Crank_It_Up]

lol, you did fine, at least she'll know you want to take her out... no telling what will happen down the road.

 

[DJ1234]

Now I have to call her back at a later time and tell her who it is and tell her I was just joking around and I didn't mean to offend her bf. SH*T I thought they were broken up, he wasn't even talking to her for like a week! OMFG!!

 

[socalrunner]

how does she know its you? so why would you have to apologize to the bf?

screw that guy, you're probably better than him anyways. plus he's scared that you'll steal her from him, whcih you should probably do. try to read the article about the bf stealer

 

[DJ1234]

lol, you did fine, at least she'll know you want to take her out... no telling what will happen down the road.

I think she already knew I wanted to taker her out but she handed the phone to her bf and he's the one who said this sh*T! AHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I just want to kick myself in the nuts :moon: :cuss: :cuss: :cuss: :cuss: :cuss:

 

[Crank_It_Up]

no reason to feel bad, next time you see her, say yeah i want to take you out, what's wrong with that? Tell her you heard she had broken up... next time she breaks up I bet she'll make sure you know.

 

[DJ1234]

^The thing is ill probably never see her again...it could happen but very unlikley as we're both going off to college and she might go to the same college but seeing her is going to be very slim...I don't really want to tell her I heard she broke up...I pretty much saw it with my own eyes and she was in tears and her bf didn't even really talk to her much at all that night she kept going up to him and he pretty much kept saying F*** off...
I 'm just going to come off as friends and tell her I thought we should hang out sometime...ill call her tomorrow and get this whole deal straightened up...I still feel like s**T!

 

[penkitten]

first, you can never plan a conversation out. how do you know what someone else when say and when they will say it and what tone they will say it in?
you can only think of what you would like to say before hand a little bit.

secondly, if you already know she is someone you had oneitis over, you shouldn't call her now. it is only going to re create that oneitis all over again.
you should let her give you her number and then leave and when you get far away toss it out the window. let her sit and wait on you to call, and then you don't because you are too busy and forgot all about her.

 

[DJ1234]

^I know that you can never plan out a conv. but I did and it went exactly the way I planned it ( I just got lucky) except that she had to hang up early and call me back again. Which is when he called me and said to never call back again.

I know but why shouold I ask for her # now when I already have it? I'm actually going to delete it after tommorow. Hopefully when I get this all settled tommorow she'll call back and say to hang out and I will just act like I don't know who is calling...

 

[HalfAddict]

Forget her man.

IMO you've done enough damage to yourself on this one.

All of her and his friends know about this, and if they're the type of people I think they are, be ready to get some **** for it.

I'd suggest you just stop contactiong this girl, this isn't going to turn out like a movie where she calls you and confesses her undying love for you after she realizes the guy she is seeing is a ****.

 

[DJ1234]

^
yea I know but do you think I should atleast confess who this is? She clearly knows who I am, just probably didn't know who it was over the phone? I mean, I could always tell her I was just joking with her over the phone....

But let me ask you guys a question, do you think she would have guessed my name if her bf wasn't there with her? She clearly is interested in me or atleast she was the last time I saw her.

 

[DJ1234]

This is the first time ive ever attempted to contact her so I see it as two options....

1. Call her back and explain that I was just joking and confess to her who this really is and ask her if she wants to hang out sometime probably "as friends" (now that I know her bf and her got back together)

2. Act like it never happned ill probably never see her in my life again unless I actually try to initiate contact with her and then only if I do see her again I ask her for her # and start from there?...

i'm really leaning towards option #1 but in your honest opinion what do you guys strongly suggest I do?...For the sake of my rep and ego..I honestly don't want to look like a desperate jack @$$......

 

[Dr.Dude]

Dude, learn how to NEXT.

If you wanna become a DJ, you have to learn to respect yourself. By swimming through this crap, no matter how high she scores on a ladder, you are really going down.

Since you're in high school, there are lots of other wimminz that you can talk/flirt/seduce. To be happy in life, learn to respect yourself. By ignoring her, maybe you lost social value to her. Maybe her BF manipulated her. Also, you'll meet (meat?) lots of good looking girls with college. The game is meant to be fun.

In the end, by NEXTing, you'll feel better. (I've been there, done that.)

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Stop being a dramaqueen. Just EJECT, and take it as a funny learning experience you can always tell your buddies about. Get some plates spinning.

 

[HalfAddict]

Option three.

Get the fvck out and never think about her or this AGAIN, UNLESS you find yourself doing it again. When that happens think back to the embarassment of this and set your mind straight.