Got the girl but went from DJ to AFC in the process! URGENT HELP NEEDED!!

[Amateur_FOR_NOW]

Yesterday we made out at a club (we know each other because we made out about a month ago) and I was acting like a total DJ in the beggining and I am sure she felt very attracted.

BUT...yesterday I started following her around and everything...anyway, I asked her to be with me and what does she think of us two being together? She said she was indeifferent to that but also said yes that we can try...after that I was really starting to be an AFC because I acted very interested while she didn't.

Here where I live in Croatia, supposed DJ's are guys who in the beggining give the woman much attention till she falls for him and then they act all indifferent and everything!

WHAT DO I DO TO RESTORE MY VALUE BUT STILL NOT LOSE HER??? IS IT TOO LATE?

 

[Amateur_FOR_NOW]

C'mon people, this is a real crisis!

 

[tmpgstx]

It's funny, because in America we call that chasing an AW (trying to win her over and then she acts indifferent after showing initial interest).

Since i'm assuming AW is a global thing, don't show any interest now whatsoever! It will get her crazy thinking why and she'll contact you. From that point, always be in the driver's seat.

 

[Warlord]

Originally posted by Amateur_FOR_NOW
C'mon people, this is a real crisis!

It's not a crisis, get a life.

 

[Amateur_FOR_NOW]

Originally posted by tmpgstx

Since i'm assuming AW is a global thing, don't show any interest now whatsoever! It will get her crazy thinking why and she'll contact you. From that point, always be in the driver's seat.

I don't understand thos "always be in the drivers seat"?

After all I am not American.

 

[Safari]

The expression "to be in the driver's seat" means to be in control. The man should always have control. A woman tries to get it, and it is the core of what makes you a challenge for a woman. It's a test...if you give up control, she won't see you as a man.

By asking for a relationship, you gave her the power to choose, and thus put her in the driver's seat. Challenge finished, girl moves on.

I'd prepare to find another girl, but it's possible she will contact you. For now, you must ignore her. Every time you contact her now is another nail in the coffin. Ignoring her MIGHT restore your value. Her "accidentally" seeing you out with another attractive woman would be even better . But in either case, the next move must be hers. If she contacts you, she demonstrates her interest and by doing so surrenders her control back to you.

Your odds aren't good, however. Maybe you'll get lucky, but I'd prepare to move on. If you do get control back, make sure you keep it.