Got shoved out the conversation by women I was with.

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Scaramouche

Master Don Juan

Nov 26, 2014

Dear English,
Yes In England or Australia this is very bad manners indeed,but in the US I really don't know...Yeah I would feel indignant too,but the damage is done,you just smile graciously and say enjoy!...It is better to master your feelings than be painted as small minded or cheap...It's surprising how quickly situations can change in life,perhaps one Day you will see her out with a good sort you would like to meet.....don't sweat the small stuff Old Chap!

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.