You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
fixed.RangerMIke said:
Genius500 said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
One less for DJs to concern themselves with.Genius500 said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You rang,sir?PeasantPlayer said:
Getting women is a numbers game. Everyone has different tastes. Some girls like big guys and some guys like big girls. If you have ever been in sales, then it's exactly like that. You find the person who is looking for what you're selling- which is you.Genius500 said:
I thought your name looked familiar; Welcome back after a long absence! Ignore the petty bickering abovePanzergrenadier said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Thanks Desdinova! I pretty much did ignore the nay sayers, and yea I was rusty as can be. But, lol that you say 10 years younger I'm actually going out with a girl tomorrow who is exactly that - 10 years younger and blonder! Living well is the best revenge!Desdinova said:I thought your name looked familiar; Welcome back after a long absence! Ignore the petty bickering above
13 years is a long fvcking time, and might I add congrats at making it that far! Her days of expiry are upon her. Time to get a nice fresh piece of ass who's 10 years younger than her
You're going to be rusty as hell at seduction from being out of the game for so long, but keep plugging at it. It takes a bit to get back into the groove of interacting with women who don't know you. Nice to see you're getting out there instead of attempting the cesspool of online dating.
