Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Got rejected, but doesn't feel too bad

MrBombastic

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There is this girl that works at Subway. I work in an auto-store (retail) close-by. I have seen her at the Subway before and never gave a second thought and didn't really say anything besides making an order. Then about a couple of weeks ago, I go in to make an order and I notice a guy trying to start a conversation with her saying "It's pretty quiet in here". She fully ignored him. After the guy left, while I was paying and about to leave, she gives me a smile with her head tilted in an angle. I couldn't stop thinking about her since lol. So a few days later, I go in and finally make small talk saying "Do you go to uni?" (this was last week). After I finally broke the ice between us, she asks me if this was my dinner and how she eats dinner late and can't fall asleep after. Within the last week, we have had several conversations about ourselves. 2 days ago, I go in and ask her how long she has been working at Subway and the conversation led to how her dad can't stop talking about cars (which came up because I work at the auto-store and I only went there in my uniform ONCE, a month prior, which she remembers). But the fact that she compared me with her dad seems like she might be interested in me? We are both of similar ages, if not, I might be a couple of years older.

Yesterday, I asked her if she had ever snowboarded ("No"), so I say that I am going this Saturday and if she wanted to come. She didn't say "No" specifically. She says "She hasn't snowboarded before". I replied that its just gentle slopes, plus I snowboard so should be all good. Then she was thinking for a moment and said "I might have to pass, thanks for asking me :/" . After that, she started talking about how she is really keen on learning to scuba dive, but she can't swim. And we talked for a bit, then I had to pay and gap.

This was the first time I asked a girl out EVER. It was actually not bad! I was confident the whole time 'on the outside' (obviously a bit nervous inside). But the fact that it did not end in awkward silence or a "GTFO" reaction is awesome.

From advice that I got, I should ask someone for lunch or coffee next time.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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EbbsAndFlows

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Nervousness on inside mighta came out more than you relize. Regardless, you cold approached which is something to be proud of. You'll get used to it after a while, laughing at those who reject you, and making those who accept excited for that first date.
 

TheSlasher

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Too soon to give up. I personally would give it two more tries or so. Be sure to read anti-dump's machine if you haven't already.
 
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