"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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tom121

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Well the original story is
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=60063

so when I go to the place we are suppose to meet, I was 15 minutes late, she said she would be late too. Because she is going to eat lunch with her mother, so not sure when she will be finished.

Anyway so I wondered around that place for 1 hour, then couldn't wait anymore so I went to call her house #, it was voice message, I called again in 30 minutes, telling her that "I have been here for an hour and thirty minutes and I am leaving. bye."

As on my way home, I wondered what caused this, it must be my looks, my stupidness, it's all my fault that I trusted a *****. I deleted all my accounts on the internet dating sites.

I had a feeling she wasn't gonna show up, well I was right.

Now I just feel like banging my head on the concreate wall, but I am not gonna do that because I am gonna find out where she lives and teach her a lesson.

I'd have to thank her for ditching me because she had me thinking of many things I had struggle puzzling it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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why start a new thread ?

you should have posted this on the end of your original thread.

sorry just a pet peeve of mine.

I called again in 30 minutes, telling her that "I have been here for an hour and thirty minutes and I am leaving. bye."

you should have lied and said " sorry just ringing to let you know that my 15 minute delay has extended itself indefinatley and i will not be able to make our date "

why give the b*tch the satisfaction of knowing you wasted your time waiting around for her ?

As on my way home, I wondered what caused this, it must be my looks, my stupidness, it's all my fault that I trusted a *****. I deleted all my accounts on the internet dating sites.

don't blame yourself.

you are not the problem.

when you deal with a creature ( women ) that is flakey by nature ( emotional ) you will get this.

imagine you meeting new women and getting numbers and make 5 dates a week with new women.

you will get alot of flakers. it's part of the game.

women on the internet have more chance of flaking and they feel it is acceptable.

all women feel that flaking is acceptable. society teaches them it is ok. they are the prize. if they don't flake than the man is very lucky. he should be thankful for her time ?

WTF ???

b*tches better check that attitue around a DJ

Now I just feel like banging my head on the concreate wall, but I am not gonna do that because I am gonna find out where she lives and teach her a lesson.


bad idea.

if you do that SHE WINS.

you let her get to you even more. you have wasted enough time on this HO.

success is the best revenge. MEMORISE THAT.

now get back to enjoying life and meeting new women.

I'd have to thank her for ditching me

yes you WON because you forced her to play her hand.

you saved $$$$$ and TIME. damn i am glad she flaked now instead of 2 months from now when she could have taken $ and time from you.

you did well. you turned up. you got ball$.

now go find some more b*tches and have fun.

forget revenge it never works unless it's success cause that kills b*tches more than anything.



Lost In Translation

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there are too many things that can be said about this situation so i'll just flat out ask you if you have read the dj bible or any type of similar work that guides you on the jon duan style.
 

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Well great, she isn't returning my phone calls, blocked me on MSN

guess what STRIKE OUT BITTTTCH :rolleyes: :rolleyes:
 

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LOL she said you being ugly dont matter to her? are you so clueless to actually believe her? am sure this is the reason why she flaked man... seriously tho, looks can be easily improve with the right clothes and built.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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the jon duan style. [/B]




lol..

Tom:So what? you got rejected...move on.
 

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There are three ways to handle rejection.

REJECTION RESPONSE #1: FREAK OUT
In this response, a girl rejects you and you respond by going on-tilt. "Oh my God," you sob. "I'll never meet a girl who likes me. They're all b*tches! I should go f*ck that girl's sh*t up for not liking me! It's all over for me! I shall never love a girl and a girl shall never love me!"

Basically, you're like a quarterback who throws an interception in the first quarter of the game and just gives up, saying, "I'll never, ever throw a good pass again!"

This is the technique you're currently using. It's stupid. Knock that sh*t off.


REJECTION RESPONSE #2: SAY IT'S NO BIG DEAL
In this response, you're just laid-back and easy-going about the rejection. "No problem," you sigh, smiling. "She didn't like me... what are ya gonna do?"

In this case, you're the quarterback that keeps throwing interceptions and just smiles and shakes his head at the other team. "Man, those guys are good!" he says. "Looks like we're gonna lost this game. Oh well."

This is the technique that a lot of guys here seem to be recommending. That sh*t's stupid, too.


REJECTION RESPONSE #3: DIAGNOSE AND CORRECT
With this response, you realize that all rejections happen for a reason. The challenge, then, is to figure out what her reason was, if possible. Sometimes you can ask her. Sometimes you can't. But if you can get a pretty decent understanding of what caused the rejection, you can determine if it's something that will hold you back in future encounters with the opposite sex. If so, you'll then need to figure out if it's something that you are willing to address and change.

For example, say that you're one of those guys whose style is the skateboarder look. But the girl who rejects you is more into preppy-looking guys. So you can either change your style or not, that's up to you. But you'll have an understanding of what held you back in this situation. If it's your looks, you can do things to improve them, if you want to. If it's your personality, that can be changed to a certain extent, too, if you want.

In this case, you don't even have to ask. I can tell you exactly what the problem is. If this girl had a problem with your looks, that was just secondary. The real problem here is your attitude. Your comments about your "stupidness", your looks, and "trusting a b*tch" gave that away. Your proposed solution of finding her and "teaching her a lesson" is not only stupid but also shows a tremendous lack of self-esteem and maturity. Until you fix your attitude, you can expect these kinds of rejections. Honestly, would you want to go out with a girl who acted like that? I sure as hell wouldn't.

When you're a quarterback that throws an interception, it can either be a temporary setback or an impassable obstacle... and the way you approach it makes all the difference.
 

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thanks for the article, its what I needed :cool:

yes you are right I was acting inmature and retarded :D
 
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