Got phone.. and then? (might be easy for others)

[BrightV]

Ok guys,

So... I have had the opportunity to start a small talk with a girl at the Airport Baggage handler... we have had a small talk while we where waiting our luggages. My luggage arrived first, so I did the usual bye bye chat and got the phone too.

We chat a bit the next day (a bit means 2 messages back and forth) and then she disappeared.
The golden rule for me is to just delete the number if there is no response for 3 days.. and as I did

The 5th day, she texted back, with an excuse that she didn't see the Message as her phone doesn't show the notifications for messages... we chatted again for some time, and then she sent a message
I will have to stop replying as i am busy. Bye byee

One thing is the conversation was going on naturally, without questions from both sides, like a normal human talk..

So what do you suggest to do next?

P.S. I was just ready to go for it, and ask out.

 

[LMFAO]

Ask her out before she disappears for good, you've already taken a bit long.

 

[MOTU]

^^Agreed. My favorite way to ask a girl out "I want to go to xxx Wednesday, and I would like for you to come with me. are you free?".

 

[BrightV]

When should I do that? the next time she is back on our chatting... or immediately and she if she reacts?

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Drill the following sentence into your head:

THE PHONE SHOULD ONLY BE USED TO SET UP DATES.

That's it. None of this "building rapport" stuff; none of this random chatting with her like you're one of her girlfriends. You simply use it as a means to set up a meeting with her one-on-one in person. Anytime is the right time to do it - simply hit her up (preferably I'd CALL her instead - things sometimes get lost in translation when texting) and say "Hey, I'd love to see you again - there's a restaurant in town that's pretty cool, are you available on Tuesday or Thursday?" (Make sure to give her the option of two days, thus upping the chances of her saying "yes".)

Remember: you JUST met this girl, so you have nothing to lose. But, the longer you chat with her without asking her on an actual date, the more likely she is to put you into the "friendzone." Hope this helps!

 

[VladPatton]

The next time you hear this: "she didn't see the Message as her phone doesn't show the notifications for messages", please know very well it's a complete lie. Girls are mainlined, hardwired, and are permanently attached to their phones nowadays. They cannot be away from the Instagrams, the ****ter, and The Fakebook for more than 2 mins flat. This is science.

She seems like an A-Hole replying like that, I would delete her number.

 

[RangerMIke]

Drill the following sentence into your head:

THE PHONE SHOULD ONLY BE USED TO SET UP DATES.

That's it. None of this "building rapport" stuff; none of this random chatting with her like you're one of her girlfriends. You simply use it as a means to set up a meeting with her one-on-one in person. Anytime is the right time to do it - simply hit her up (preferably I'd CALL her instead - things sometimes get lost in translation when texting) and say "Hey, I'd love to see you again - there's a restaurant in town that's pretty cool, are you available on Tuesday or Thursday?" (Make sure to give her the option of two days, thus upping the chances of her saying "yes".)

Remember: you JUST met this girl, so you have nothing to lose. But, the longer you chat with her without asking her on an actual date, the more likely she is to put you into the "friendzone." Hope this helps!

This, stay on the phone long enough to ask her out on a date and confirm logistics, then hang up.

Be advised that when a woman says:

"Sorry, don't know what happened to my message I didn't get it."

It REALLY means:

"Sorry, your message just wasn't important enough for me to respond to it until I started feeling guilty about it."

"Sorry, your message just wasn't important enough for me to respond to it until for some strange reason... when you didn't go all beta and clingy... I was driven to contact you."

The only way you will know for sure which it was is to try and get her out on a date. If it was the later, she will go out. If it's the first, she'll make excuses about dying cats, sad friends, cars stuck in reverse, a root canal that is giving her trouble, a visiting relative she isn't sure when they are coming (all excuses I've heard). If you hear this delete the number and find another.