got out of the friendzone, but..

[bertstayr]

so basically i got out of the friendzone (for 2 years), not through confessing or even showing my feelings, but becoming a higher value person (being interesting, fun and confident around her, improving myself and talking to other girls which comes with social proof and jealousy).

for the longest time ive had an unreciprocated crush on her, but now that she likes me back.. ive completely lost interest.

a large part of me improved myself because of her.. and its strange. having a oneitis and not getting her is a beautiful thing guys. i would not be the person i was today without her.

i dont really know why i posted this, but if its any inspiration at all or an idea of what to do, i believe any male has the potential to 'win over' (i use this term very loosely) their oneitis through self improvement and becoming a valuable person (and its a catch 22 because once you do, you will very likely not even want her anymore and you'll have plenty of options).

keep hitting the gym, keep doing things that scare you, keep talking to everyone and anyone, you can do it!

 

[PapiChulo]

Great point. Exactly what happens to me. Oneitis is what paralyzes you from upgrading yourself. Once you get over it, it is a great motivational power as long as you do it for yourself.

 

[blueline]

That's interesting. I'm pretty sure I could easily get this girl that made me feel miserable for an entire summer by rejecting me two years ago. She was my first date and cold approach ever, haha.

I think I know the reason she rejected me now, too: I was too desperate. Now, I wouldn't even give her a second glance, ahaha. I turn down girls that look like her all the time. I'm waaaay out of that girl's league. I could've easily ****ed her had I had any confidence in myself.

After getting rejected that hard, I started to cut my teeth on the cold approach and learned what this stuff is really all about. I'd love to seduce her now and reject her.