"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Got New GF, want old one back.

jadeona13

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About a few weeks ago, I got a new job for the summer. That's where the problem began...

At my job, i met a girl. She's really cute, fun personality, and nice body. She is liked by everyone. The other day, she gave me her number and we started texting. I hung out with her twice and the second time we had a nice make out session at her house.

I, however, did something terrible. I had a girlfriend of 8 months. Things werent going well with us and i met this new girl and stuff just happend. The next day my girlfriend of 8 months and I broke up. Not because of the new girl, but because for the last months we were going downhill. And it is because i was flirting with other girls and losing interest in my girl.

Now i kept hanging out with this girl at work. And she has been telling everyone we are boyfriend and girlfriend.

But my old girlfriend of 8 months wants me back. And i cannot stop thinking about her. She really is a great girl and everything was perfect except for the last month, which was my fault.

My girlfriend of 8 months, and deep down even I want to get back together. I told my girlfriend we need time , about 2-3 weeks.

But what do i do with this new girlfriend who works with me EVERYDAY.?! she really is into me too and i HATE hurting another person.

What do i do?!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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oakraiderz2

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Like they say...dont sh*t where you eat.
 

AKA FLEX

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If you know that getting back with your old girlfriend is what you really want, you've gotta sack up and break the truth to the new girl.

That's why I stay away from chicks at work, because when things so sour you can't just sever your ties and move on. Explain the situation to her, empathize with her if she gets upset, and know that things will probably be awkward at work for a few days, but she'll get over it. Heck, you'll probably end up buddies before the end of the summer.
 

drtk

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Stay focused with this new girl. The likeliest reason you got involved with this new chick is because you were looking for something you didn't have with the old one and you found it with this girl. I know it might be hard to forget the good moments, but maybe it wasn't even meant to be. Get over her and move on! :up:
And try not to drop the pen in the company's ink from this moment forth, it can get bad.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Now, your involved with a girl you work with? If you dump the new one you gotta see her at work all the time now...
This will be your learning experience where guys tell you to not date someone you work with!

Now, right now you would want to take your girl of 8 months back. You been with her for a long time. It's natural to miss someone like that. Give it a couple weeks and see how you feel about your ex. While, your on your break. Focus on the negatives about your girl of 8 months. Then, focus on the qualities of the new girl. After awhile you might not even want to see your ex anymore. Hell, you might not even like either girl.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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