Got myself into a tough spot..

[thedoc]

Hey, basically, how should I "break up" with a girl who's absolutely in love and obsessed with me. Not to mention she's the type who seems like she would kill herself.

The reason I put break up in quotes is we're not official. I just never mentioned bf/gf but we're pretty much that.



As easy of a question as this seems, I'm not sure of what to do.

1. I could ignore her and keep making excuses, but I hate it when girls do that to me and that requires a ton of unnecessary effort on my part to avoid her.

2. I could directly confront her, but I feel as though she would be completely devastated. I played my cards perfectly with this girl, she couldn't do anything about it , and all of a sudden I'm dumping her? If I were to do this I would have to pick out my words perfectly because I actually care about other people's feelings.

3. I can piss off her best friend . I'm not even kidding, I'm seriously considering this. I did just say I care about other people's feelings but her best friend's "rage" wouldn't nearly be of the same caliber as the girl's devastation, if you know what I mean.




So what do you guys suggest I do, I've never been in this spot before; my other breakups were basically mutual (we both saw it coming) or the girl dumped me lol.

I realize option 2 seems like the best answer but just a few hours ago I showed a high interest level towards her (basically convincing her to fvck me,*OVER AIM!* Yeah, this girl would do anything for me). The problem is this is so out of the blue I really wouldn't know what to say. I want to be honest but the reasons kind of suck lol (I'm exhausted if I have time tomorrow I'll extend this and add reasons, if it matters at all).

 

[War Against Betaism]

I doubt she'll be so psycho that she'll kill herself over you. Just tell her "I'm not feeling it anymore," and then be gone with her. It's the truth, right? Sometimes I don't get why some people have to keep lying to women when honesty is not only the safest bet, but also the choice that comes with less strings attached.

 

[Plec07]

Introduce her into one of your less "socially fortunate" friends? We all know somebody who is still somewhat of an AFC, always looking to be nice to women.

You could try introducing them in a group gathering kinda thing. And then kind of abandon her for most of the gathering. Your mate will be there, if she gets annoyed/jealous because your not paying her any attention. He'll be paying her the attention she wants.

Then get them to swap numbers/AIM and slowly start to do little things to annoy her, though not nessisarily upset her. He'll be there to comfort her and eventually you can just kinda stop contact between you two. If your lucky she'll actually end stuff with you to be with him?

Just a thought, though it could be more effort than it's worth. But at the end of the day, you spare her feelings, help out a mate. And possibly even give her somebody who're more what she wants from a guy.