"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Got LTR a Job Through an old Plate:Should i Lie?

slickaz

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Right so i used to have this plate.
we were open,
she was hott, fun and worked as a fashion stylist for a top magazine here.
she is very fun and an open person, so we werent exclusive and she respected that. we ended on good terms and remained friends.

Forward 3 months
then i got an LTR.
my LTR is also a budding fashion stylist. who is looking to get into the industry.
she asked if i could help.

so i called my plate.
plate: no problem, she can start next week and we'll trial her for a month then pull her on full time if shes good.
me: appreciate it sweetheart ill call you later with the details.

now my LTR is very inquisitive.
and has asked me HOW!! did i get such a high demand job, at such a big magazine, overnight?!!!! how?!!
she even asked if i paid someone to get her in.
i havent answered, id dodged the question.

should i lie? and say i got it through a friend?
should i say that the girl who she'll be working with used to sleep with me?

Im thinking i should lie, because my plate will be happy to comply and play along.
my LTR is a little on the possesive side when it comes to me and other women, including my past.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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AGBourne

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You are overthinking this.

When you g/f asked you how?

Just say it was someone who you used to hang around with and leave it at that. Thats it, no more no less.

Thats all you need to say, "someone I used to know and hang around with." That should be your only answer even if she persists and throws temper-tentrums.
 
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Not so slick as you used to be, eh Az? :D

Don't sweat it. Like AGB said, you simply know some people. Don't reveal that you ate from the spoils of war. ;)
 

slickaz

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hahaha..
nah man, its not that..im not too sure about this whole ltr thing.

i just didnt want to lie and then have it bite me in the ass.

so i was hoping some of the more experienced ltr guys can give me some feedback on BSing to the gf..
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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DonJuan11

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slickaz said:
Right so i used to have this plate.
we were open,
she was hott, fun and worked as a fashion stylist for a top magazine here.
she is very fun and an open person, so we werent exclusive and she respected that. we ended on good terms and remained friends.

Forward 3 months
then i got an LTR.
my LTR is also a budding fashion stylist. who is looking to get into the industry.
she asked if i could help.

so i called my plate.
plate: no problem, she can start next week and we'll trial her for a month then pull her on full time if shes good.
me: appreciate it sweetheart ill call you later with the details.

If your current LTR called her old boyfriend for a favor for you, called him "sweetheart" and said she would call him again, would that turn you on?

now my LTR is very inquisitive.
and has asked me HOW!! did i get such a high demand job, at such a big magazine, overnight?!!!! how?!!
she even asked if i paid someone to get her in.
i havent answered, id dodged the question.

should i lie? and say i got it through a friend?
should i say that the girl who she'll be working with used to sleep with me?
You should have said "I'll see if I can find anyone in the fashion stylist industry who may be able to help. Now lets go dancing."

By calling your old gf and telling her to help your new one, you are opening a big can of worms.
 
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