"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Got ljbf´ed... but can't get over her.

The Libertine

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old fashioned said:
man when i read my posts again, i can see where you guys are coming from. i sound like a ****ing jerk... i got to change that. '
No,you don't sound like a jerk. Jerks are the ones that act badly to girls and then get laid. You are the complete opposite. Jerks have balls. You don't seem to have them.

You shouldn't trust everything everyone says to you. As I understand it the best friend told you Katie liked you,and then you told Katie you like her and she ljbf'ed you. If that's so, you are a complete retard. A girl friendzones you and you still think you have chance? Man,the friend zone is like the purgatory- you can't get back to the world of the living.

Oh,and I'm not telling you to completely forget her. I'm telling you to just forget about dating her. The shy nerdy hot girls make great friends. And she surely has shy nerdy hot friends you know.

Go out and try to have fun. Girls will come as a byproduct.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm speaking through experience. I've been there. It isn't fun. I'm just trying to help him and that's my style.
 

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And I'm the blunt one!

Old fashioned, it's time to move on. You can spend your time agonizing over whether this chick liked you or why she liked you or how much she liked you or whatever, or you can go find someone else.

And there's always another "one". In my really AFC days, I probably had two or three "ones", where I was convinced she was the woman for me. I'm still on friendly terms with those women, but looking back I can't possibly believe I thought they were the "one".

Hindsight's 20/20, but we're all blind in the moment.
 

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ok first i wanna say thank you for all the advices... !

i´ve made my decision about this girl. Im going to next her and go to some parties and have fun with other girls. I wasted to much time on this girl, i got to get over her. I actually stopped going to parties because i normally only go to parties for the girls, and since i am crushing on katie i saw no reason to go party with other girls... can you believe that ? :D .. Im done with this oneitis thing... its completely controlling you. its horrible...
 

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old fashioned said:
Im done with this oneitis thing... its completely controlling you. its horrible...
That's what I was fearing you were at. You seem to be controlled. I didn't want to over-dramatize. I still have a feeling you are not that bad, but it seems you may be. Anyway, you won't fix this with your mind alone. You need help from diet, exercise and other things to support your mood. Go get sunlight in the day. Sleep well at the night. (Classic tip a doctor told me. sounds simple and ineffective, but it makes a difference in some cases). I want to help you get over this! Message me for more information. I still, however, didn't get a answer: what did you do, so far, to get over this? What changes did you do in your life style? It is your life styles consequences that you are feeling now. You have three more months, if you want her, you gotta do some changes and perhaps ask her out when you get your stuff together? Good luck. have a nice day.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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