"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Got ljbf´ed... but can't get over her.

The Libertine

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old fashioned said:
man when i read my posts again, i can see where you guys are coming from. i sound like a ****ing jerk... i got to change that. '
No,you don't sound like a jerk. Jerks are the ones that act badly to girls and then get laid. You are the complete opposite. Jerks have balls. You don't seem to have them.

You shouldn't trust everything everyone says to you. As I understand it the best friend told you Katie liked you,and then you told Katie you like her and she ljbf'ed you. If that's so, you are a complete retard. A girl friendzones you and you still think you have chance? Man,the friend zone is like the purgatory- you can't get back to the world of the living.

Oh,and I'm not telling you to completely forget her. I'm telling you to just forget about dating her. The shy nerdy hot girls make great friends. And she surely has shy nerdy hot friends you know.

Go out and try to have fun. Girls will come as a byproduct.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm speaking through experience. I've been there. It isn't fun. I'm just trying to help him and that's my style.
 

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And I'm the blunt one!

Old fashioned, it's time to move on. You can spend your time agonizing over whether this chick liked you or why she liked you or how much she liked you or whatever, or you can go find someone else.

And there's always another "one". In my really AFC days, I probably had two or three "ones", where I was convinced she was the woman for me. I'm still on friendly terms with those women, but looking back I can't possibly believe I thought they were the "one".

Hindsight's 20/20, but we're all blind in the moment.
 

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ok first i wanna say thank you for all the advices... !

i´ve made my decision about this girl. Im going to next her and go to some parties and have fun with other girls. I wasted to much time on this girl, i got to get over her. I actually stopped going to parties because i normally only go to parties for the girls, and since i am crushing on katie i saw no reason to go party with other girls... can you believe that ? :D .. Im done with this oneitis thing... its completely controlling you. its horrible...
 

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old fashioned said:
Im done with this oneitis thing... its completely controlling you. its horrible...
That's what I was fearing you were at. You seem to be controlled. I didn't want to over-dramatize. I still have a feeling you are not that bad, but it seems you may be. Anyway, you won't fix this with your mind alone. You need help from diet, exercise and other things to support your mood. Go get sunlight in the day. Sleep well at the night. (Classic tip a doctor told me. sounds simple and ineffective, but it makes a difference in some cases). I want to help you get over this! Message me for more information. I still, however, didn't get a answer: what did you do, so far, to get over this? What changes did you do in your life style? It is your life styles consequences that you are feeling now. You have three more months, if you want her, you gotta do some changes and perhaps ask her out when you get your stuff together? Good luck. have a nice day.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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