Got into a hissy and drunk dialed the ex at 3am....

[ThunderMaverick]

....good thing she didn't pick up.

Haven't spoken to her since last December. Crazy huh? Glad it's going to stay that way.

Just needed to spill.

Oh! And if she calls back I'll just say that I was dialing my younger sister to pick her up from a party. They were next to each other in my phone book.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Haha, men always do and say crazy things when we're drunk - this tells me hat she is still on your mind.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Well remember the last PM I sent you, Dr. P? I thought I would be okay and I'd be able to handle what I read. I just can't get it out of my mind now. What was an accident just made my curiosity grow and grow.

Believe me I want her eradicated from my heart and soul and I've been doing almost everything to do it. Hobbies, other women. Hell, smoking pot and taking vodka shots at the same time. (EXTREMELY BAD COMBINATION).

It started at a party last night. This girl I thought I was vibing with suddenly changes her attitude and starts hitting on my best friend. That really left me sore and the fact that my buddy stuck around to talk to her when he knew I liked her made things a little more sore for me. But hell, you can't control who you like and I'll be damned if I'm going to get in the way of their potential happiness. They exchanged numbers and such.

This is going to be a problem because now I just don't like her, and if they get serious I'll have to deal with her. However I'm keeping my mouth shut. My pride is hurt.

I thought about just totally making myself look like an ass over the phone with my ex, just to solidify the fact that she's not thinking about me the way I'm thinking about her.

I just need to keep busy and focused on my goals.

I could use some words of encouragement.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

CODE RED! HELP!

She sent me a message on myspace saying:


Hey... I got a call from you at like 3:30 in the morning a couple nights ago. What's up?


Here's what I was going to put:

I dialed your number by mistake.

My younger sister was in town and i needed to pick her up from a party. She's still next to you in my phone book.

Sorry about that! lol

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I don't want to engage in conversation with her. I just want to apologize and be formal.

Maybe I should just tell her I drunk dialed her?

Or should I just be shot first?

 

[jophil28]

Do not reply - nichts, nada , zip , and never explain.Drop it NOW. If she finds a way to corner you and brings up the drunk dial, just say " My mistake." and shut up !!
You owe an EX nothing. !!! You are not obligated to justify yourself to someone who in not in your life anymore. So you got crocked - big deal,

The MySpace thing is interesting. Weird chick.

my instincts tell me that she left you ,and you tried to "talk sense to her " at the breakup . Right ?

 

[iqqi]

Go with the sister excuse. DO NOT ADMIT TO DRUNK DIALING EVER. :nono:

 

[ThunderMaverick]

my instincts tell me that she left you ,and you tried to "talk sense to her " at the breakup . Right ?

I didn't try to get her back. I knew once she decided she didn't have feelings for me anymore then that was it. I reminisced with her a few times after the break up but nothing more. I cut contact with her completely. That was between late December and mid January. Around April she contacted me on myspace asking me if I wanted some head-shots she took of me a year ago. My hair was much longer that it is now. (I'm talking shoulder length). I thought that was strange. We didn't talk whatsoever for 4 months. 5 months later I drunk dialed her a few nights ago. Badda bing. Badda boom.


I did call her. So she wants to know why. I'll give her a lie to put her mind at ease...as well as mine.

You guys like the excuse I gave? Any better ones?

 

[ThunderMaverick]

The MySpace thing is interesting. Weird chick.

Interesting? How so?

 

[jophil28]

Interesting? How so?

Why didn't she just call you the next day and ask you why you called at 3am.
Using Myspace is to ask you "What's up ? ....well, call me old fashioned I guess..

 

[jophil28]

I'll give her a lie to put her mind at ease...as well as mine.

You guys like the excuse I gave? Any better ones?

The excuse is lame and girly. Do nothing NO CONTACT . Why would you want to "put her mind at rest".. Who cares. (unless you still do and are secretly hoping that she will open a window of opportunity) ??

 

[joekerr31]

the 'sister' excuse is lame. if i were here id be thinking 'wow, he still has my number stored in his cell phone.'

makes you look like you haven't ever fully let go.

although calling her sure doesn't help make it look like you've let go either

maybe you should go with the truth (mixed with a little white lie)...

maybe say "I did? sorry about that. I was partying last night and got wasted. don't remember calling you. anyway sorry for the bother."

either that or just dont say anything and revert to no more contact with her.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

You don't think that getting her to think I deleted her number is lame and girly? After all, I haven't called her since december and she knows I know her number by heart.

And about fully letting go, I'm still on her myspace friends page. I'm still in her AIM buddy list, etc. The no contact cut off thing I did with the chick I slept with a month ago thing made me look like a chump. I remember you guys saying deleting her number and taking her off my friend's list made me look like she was actually getting to me.

It ended with my ex on emotional, but not bad terms.

She contacted me and knows I check my myspace everyday. Not responding to something formal makes me look lame and girly, in my opinion. And guys, I don't hate or dislike her. She's not the bane of my existence for crying out loud. She was a good friend and a good girlfriend.

I might try the truth mixed in with a white lie thinggie.


Oh she also knows I don't get blackouts when I drink. She's seen me wasted before and knows (and I've admitted) "I remember every little thing I do when I'm drunk". The "I don't remember calling you" thing isn't going to fly.


Ahh why do I care?

 

[MacAvoy]

I would just say I was drunk & bored so I thought I'd see if you were up. Be aloof, thats it & move on. No need for white lies. A man is a man and a DJ doesn't need to resort to lying (even white lies) although I lie to women all the time but I don't pretend to be a DJ.

 

[Last Man Standing]

I could use some words of encouragement.

Since you lost the girl the least you can do is keep your dignity!!!

If you don't respond then you'll look like you are purposely trying to avoid her.

Just tell her the you dialed her number by mistake when you were thinking of another girl, you made a mistake because you were buzzed!

 

[eyedogg]

I agree with McAcvoy and LSM suggestion on the the aloof..."buzzed and guess I called you cause I dont remember".

Own you drunkness!

Eyedogg

 

[iqqi]

Since you lost the girl the least you can do is keep your dignity!!!

If you don't respond then you'll look like you are purposely trying to avoid her.

Just tell her the you dialed her number by mistake when you were thinking of another girl, you made a mistake because you were buzzed!

Exactly. If you don't respond, that looks even worse. As a matter of fact, you have waited too long! All women secretly think they are the sh!t and will think of the best case scenario when you don't tell them what's up. Often at your expense! (This can work in the opposite way too, but only if she was into you). In this case, she thinks you are still in love with her, and always will be forever and ever more.

Call her! ASAP! Tell her you haven't had time to respond, yadayadayada, and sorry for the misconception, but you meant to dial Exandra, not Ex-girlfriend. OK!!!

 

[iqqi]

I agree with McAcvoy and LSM suggestion on the the aloof..."buzzed and guess I called you cause I dont remember".

Own you drunkness!

Eyedogg

LSM did NOT say own your drunkenness. He said DENY CALLING HER SPECIFICALLY. You must say you did not mean to dial HER at all. And being buzzed is part of the reason you hit the wrong entry!

 

[jophil28]

You don't think that getting her to think I deleted her number is lame and girly?

NO, deleting a girls details is NOT lame. I don't buy this self-absorbed crap that says that deleting a girl means that she has "got" to you. ? Of course she has annoyed you (and "got to you " ) otherwise you would not be having drama. Deleting them hurts them deeply because it is a REJECTION and women woud rather lose an arm or a leg than feel rejected .
Deleting a girls details means that you have removed her and her details from your life. You are setting limits and boundaries and now she is on the other side of the DMZ .

Drunk dialing is lame, and explaining and apologizing is girly - it makes it worse.
Who the F**K cares what she thinks ? If she cared about you or you cared about her she would not be your ex !

 

[iqqi]

If she knows you deleted her number, then she knows she got to you. It is the truth. It is how girls think. Besides, like you said, you know it by heart, and she knows you know it by heart. And anyways, what does deleting the # have to do with anything now?

You didn't delete it, you drunk dialed it, MONTHS later, and now you must cover up the tracks best you can.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Well I wrote her this:

I was drunk and I dialed you number by accident. Good thing you didn't pick up. That would have been a surprise. lol

Ahh the "lol"s. They bring so much levity to a reply.

Done and done. Hopefully that'll be it.