Got into a fight with girl im dating, I call her first or wait till she calls me?

[MattS]

So last night i got into a fight with this girl ive been dating. She was just acting weird all night. It started when she asked me if i looked through her phone. I said no and gave her an explanation. apparently she got mad for me trying to explain myself.

Then we went out and i could tell she was irratated so i was talking to my friend and acting distant on purpose cause i didnt want to smother her. And i think she got mad at that too cause she said I was giving off a vibe that i wanted peoplpe to stay away from me. I was just doing to her to give her space. guess she didnt like that.

towards the end of the night i was asking what her deal was. she said she was irratated with me. i asked why and she said the same thing. then she said my roomate is coming to pick me up. i said tell him no im going to give you a ride home and she refused it.

We arent going to see each other for 3 days and i was like i hate leaving things like this. she said hug me and everythings fine. i was like whatever kissed her and walked off.

she texted me later and said "we just had an off night everything is fine with us tho, ill talk to you tommorrow" i texted back "ok".

Did i mess up and should i call her or wait for her. I dont know if i fvcked up or if she did. cause i fvcked up ill call her first but if she fvcked up and i call her then i look needy or something. i wanna talk to her soon to just talk this sh1t out.

 

[Warrior74]

According to your post, she was having an off night. She was sending out weird vibes that she didn't want people around her. She was being *****y. And she was projecting all of that crap on you. According to your post, you did nothing wrong. Why should you go groveling to her? Let her come to you. She said things were fine and she'd talk to you right? Wait for her. You will come off needy. Go meet 10 other women until or if she calls. You are pedestaling her.

 

[Warrior74]

According to your post, she was having an off night. She was sending out weird vibes that she didn't want people around her. She was being *****y. And she was projecting all of that crap on you. According to your post, you did nothing wrong. Why should you go groveling to her? Let her come to you. She said things were fine and she'd talk to you right? Wait for her. You will come off needy. Go meet 10 other women until or if she calls. You are pedestaling her.

 

[Warrior74]

According to your post, she was having an off night. She was sending out weird vibes that she didn't want people around her. She was being *****y. And she was projecting all of that crap on you. According to your post, you did nothing wrong. Why should you go groveling to her? Let her come to you. She said things were fine and she'd talk to you right? Wait for her. You will come off needy. Go meet 10 other women until or if she calls. You are pedestaling her.

 

[Dole]

you wait till she contacts you
if she asks what you been doing, you will tell her you have been busy

 

[MattS]

thats what i figured but i want to clear up that she said "we" were having an off night and that I was giving off bad vibes. Its true i was acting standoffish cause she was irratated.

 

[DJDamage]

Sounds like she was on the rag.

If everything was going great thus far and she was in a bad mood for one night then I wouldn't worry about it. However if you continue to see the trend in her behaviour worsen then maybe its time to cut this one loose.

thats what i figured but i want to clear up that she said "we" were having an off night and that I was giving off bad vibes. Its true i was acting standoffish cause she was irratated.

If she had "one bad night" then don't go there there is no point and this would just worsen an already forgotten situation.

 

[MattS]

DJ Damage you think i should call her first?

 

[DJDamage]

DJ Damage you think i should call her first?

Act as if the incident never happened. If that is the case then do what you normally do.

 

[DonJuan11]

So last night i got into a fight with this girl ive been dating. She was just acting weird all night. It started when she asked me if i looked through her phone. I said no and gave her an explanation.

Why give her an explaination? Just say "of course I wouldn't do that, I would never invade your privacy." Those who talk too much have something to hide.

apparently she got mad for me trying to explain myself. Then we went out and i could tell she was irratated so i was talking to my friend and acting distant on purpose cause i didnt want to smother her. And i think she got mad at that too cause she said I was giving off a vibe that i wanted peoplpe to stay away from me.

By giving off this vibe, you are telling her and others she has emotional power over you. If she is irritated, you are irritated, she is happy so you are happy. Not good. You can't let a women know she has emotional power over you at any time.

I was just doing to her to give her space. guess she didnt like that. towards the end of the night i was asking what her deal was. she said she was irratated with me. i asked why and she said the same thing. then she said my roomate is coming to pick me up. i said tell him no im going to give you a ride home

Dude what are you doing? You can't force things on her. If she is comfortable with her roomate picking her up, let it go. As soon as you said "no, I will do it" She is thinking, "this guy I'm dating is ridiculously controlling, imagine what he would do to me if I really pissed him off"

and she refused it. We arent going to see each other for 3 days and i was like i hate leaving things like this. she said hug me and everythings fine. i was like whatever kissed her and walked off.

she texted me later and said "we just had an off night everything is fine with us tho, ill talk to you tommorrow" i texted back "ok".

Did i mess up and should i call her or wait for her. I dont know if i fvcked up or if she did. cause i fvcked up ill call her first but if she fvcked up and i call her then i look needy or something. i wanna talk to her soon to just talk this sh1t out.

You could have texted back "You are right, we both weren't ourselves tonight. I'll call you tomorrow at 10. Have a good night and sweet dreams." Decide in the text who is going to call who at what time so then the next day, there are no ambiguities. You left in open so now tomorrow she may be busy, might not answer, might forget, etc.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Why would she be mad if you looked through her phone? If there is nothing to "hide" why would she get mad about it. Previous girlfriends I had... I looked through their phone here and there. They didn't care at all.

 

[MattS]

well I called her and she answered. small talk in the fist min then I asked her if she was still irratated she said yea. I said its not a big deal. she said she can't help it and said things are getting complicated. I said well what are u going to do about it. she said things will be fine on tues. things are good she said. ijust kept sayings cause you think it is when its not. she kept on saying we were fighting when we weren't. I was calm she was the one yelling last night at the bar.

she obviously can't listen to logic. she said its good we are not going to see each other for three days and when we see each other on tuesdaythings will be better I agreed. then she said I gotta let u go. I was totally calm and cheerful the whole time. guess I gotta wait and see what happens on tues.
I only know not to initiate anything until she does.

 

[Birdem]

If you didn't look through her phone why explain? I don't get that either. If she continues to act like this you need to put your foot down. Everyone that replied to you said wait till she calls and u end up calling her. This situation has gotten worse 1. shes still mad 2. keep explaining yourself(over the phone thing, and the arguement) 3. I only know not to initiate anything until she does(yeah, but you ended up calling her). We know who has the power in this relationship. Next time you call her up and that will be soon tell her you want to meet on wednesday instead.

 

[MattS]

i was being a d1ck to her so i decided i had to call first and tell her whats up cause shes irrational. so by me telling her its not a big deal she will realize it soon i think. Im the one who p1ssed her off not her. yea she has the power but when i dont ever call her again shell feel the lost in the next couple of days. I havent had my phone on me all day today for all i know she couldve called or texted already. Shell call me again gurantee im not going to crack and call her again.

 

[Birdem]

I'm not saying to be mad or anything. I'm just saying man up this behavior of getting mad over nothing shouldn't be tolerated by anyone.

 

[MattS]

So I know i fvcked up by calling her but i did feel i messed up for the most part. She might try to text or call but i think i might just totally ignore it. will this p1ss her off more? or should i atleast answer it. i was thinking going al lday tomorrow with no contact

 

[BadsnakeUK]

I'm not saying to be mad or anything. I'm just saying man up this behavior of getting mad over nothing shouldn't be tolerated by anyone.

Very true! I think we've all had enough of this crap. These days, I just carry on as normal regardless of whatever bad mood/irrationality she's trying to inflict on me. It's the only way - be bombproof to her moods and instabilities.

 

[MattS]

so this b1tch did not call nor text last night kind of expected and neither did i. the girl is so irrational and petty about the dumbest sh1t and fvcking selfish. I do like her though lol. when she calls dont know when the first thing im going to tell her is that she is probably one of the most irrational petty people i have ever met and im only goin to talk if she promises to be rational and not selfish like a good little puppy. fvcking b1tch.

 

[DonGorgon]

According to your post, she was having an off night. She was sending out weird vibes that she didn't want people around her. She was being *****y. And she was projecting all of that crap on you. According to your post, you did nothing wrong. Why should you go groveling to her? Let her come to you. She said things were fine and she'd talk to you right? Wait for her. You will come off needy. Go meet 10 other women until or if she calls. You are pedestaling her.

True but either way , his time has run out with her... just try to keep her around for PU$$Y but dont expect any respect from her anymore..

 

[MattS]

well she didnt call last night nor text actually kind of got to me....but i didnt have my phone on me all day today and she called 2 to 3 times and wrote a text saying babe....why arent you answering my calls. i called back eventually. she was sleeping so the convo was short but she said she just wanted to know if i was mad at her and i said no are you ok? she said yea. than i said go to sleep and ill talk to you tomorrow. so things seem fine. knew she would fvckin crack.