"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Got her to my place. Now what?

Don Rooster

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Hey, well I've known this girl for a few months.

I took her out for coffee and it went real well so I sent her a text the other day:

"Headbandz*. My place. Wednesday. What you say?"

*it's a fun card game that came up when we went for coffee!

I didn't know what to expect (i live about 10miles away) but she replied, "I say yes!! And if it's sunny, we could play out!! xx"

So she'll be round here during the day, and she's definitely interested, I'm just not sure how I'm gonna go from fun time to sexy time. Any ideas guys??
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'd say that patience might be your friend here. "And if it's sunny, we could play out!!" implies she's not interpreting it as "oh yeah, of course I'll come over and we can f*ck!" but as another reason to spend more time with you (which is still good, of course!). Focus more on having fun with her, if the opportunity arises to progress do not force anything that feels unnatural but if it feels right go for it.
 

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My strategy at my old pad was to buy uncomfortable chairs and of course only the most comfortable blankets for the my bed. Naturally chicks don't want to sit on a plastic stool made in macau when they can sit on your bed.. nature works from there.. anyways if thats not possible work on the kino.. tease her.. make her think you are going to try to get in her pants then back off in joking manner ( not telling u to shove your hand down her pants then say just kidding) more like an almost sexual feeling to the situation that disappears quickly but not quick enough for her not to notice.

One thing you can do is show her a video on your computer and sit in your chair.. she'll stand next to you watching then you just pull her down on to your lap.. after you pull her down.. happily continue watching the video.. you can talk in her ear if you need to talk to her. Escalate from there.. Once it feels natural..HIT THAT.. ha
 

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My n00b skills tells me not to seperate "fun time & sexy time"
It should be Fun and flirty at the same time, or else it could get to friendly and a kiss from the sky is akward.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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don't push too hard to **** her, you might scare her away...she's interested but doesn't want to come off as a slut. She wants to spend a little more time with you until she gives it up. Just go with the flow, she'll let you know when she's ready to f*ck by coming over to your place, now all you gotta do is make a move ie. try and kiss her, undress..you know the deal
 

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Great man ...
First of all be as much playful as you can, you can learn a lot from mystery ..
And don't be serious and to GO JUST FOR SEX .. the key is to have fun, tell her anything in your computer, is good to escalate ...
You have a great chance but don't consider it as a lose if you can't fvck :D
 

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Thanks guys. Now I notice a few of you are saying not to rush anything but I think she is primed. You see, I've just been texting her:

Her: I got doctors at 10am so I could be there for 11. Is that ok?

Me: Ye. When's it due? (she's not pregnant, just fooling about)

Her: September!! Wanna be the baby daddy?

I think that is a good sign! I'll reply to that in the morning if any of you guys can think of a good reply?

So what do you think? Should I, and if so how should I, go in for the kill?!
 

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I'd say you are doing fine. Keep up with what your doing. Escelate with kino and blah blah blah.
 

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You can twist that into a great role-play of you two being together.

"What so we're having a kid already? Whoa, slow down, we're not even going out yet! Besides, the kid might have your <insert feature about woman to tease about>..." etc, etc. Then you can mess around with 'dumping' them for things when they do something silly and 'getting back together' only after they give you a backrub/kiss on the lips/sex. Textbook flirting.

About going in for the kill, pretty much as everyone's said just make it fun and flirty - things will escalate naturally if you do this, no need for awkward 'making a move' points.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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