Got her talking with the opening, then stuffed up!

[tickforth]

Okay, I was at a mall strip today wandering around with one of my friend to search for chics. Then we saw this hot chic 9 waking in front of us on the phonewith her dad(on the phone again!!!http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&postid=568339#post568339). Anyway, she hung up quickly, which I aproach her, and the convo goes like:

Me: Excuse me, I don't mean to bother you, but i was looking for a place to buy some Shiseido cream for my younger sister. Do you know any place around here?

Her: Hmm, I am not sure... There's a place over there(she pointed to that direction) that sells creams, I've just got some from there. But i am not sure if they have Shiseido.

Me: Over there? Okay. Do you know any other places around here that sell it?

Her: No sorry...

Me :That's ok. Thanks.

Then she started to walked away, when I caught up with here instantly and goes:

Me: Hmm, I was just wondering if I can have your phone number so may be we can catch up sometimes.

Her: Hmm, Was that question before the pick up line or something?

Me(started to stuff up, I started to lose my confident a little bit and started to stumble a little and couldn't make my self clear here, And couldn't remember exactly what i was saying. It was something like this but my voice was soft): well, I thought It woud be nice if we can catch up, err since you are such a nice girl.

She was a bit hesitating and thoughtfull if she should give me her number then, at that time her Dad came and she waived to him. She walk to her dad while turn around and said:

Wait...

I felt a litttle awkward just to stand there and wait, so i Instantly looked back to my friend where he walks towards me. I told him to walk away first and let me close with phone number. By the time I turn back she was already walking away with her parents, then she turn back to me. I immediately waived goodbye to her, she waived back. And I've no phone numbers!!!

Guys, What could I have done better? should I have also approach her Parents and say hi or chase after her when she was leaving?I know i stuffed up a little bit after my cheesy(or not?) opening line. I somehow lost confident after i got the convo going. because I wasn't prepare to find something in her to compliment properly. This is the first time I do this, so i know I've lots to learn.

 

[tickforth]

I just thought of this line to push a girl for to give out her number on a cold approach if the girl is hesitating:

Me: Come on, This is your last chance to get to know me, We might not see each other again after i walk away. Your phone number will help us keep in touch.

What do you think? too pushy? too cheesy? Any ideas?

 

[Azalin]

Originally posted by tickforth
I just thought of this line to push a girl for to give out her number on a cold approach if the girl is hesitating:

Me: Come on, This is your last chance to get to know me, We might not see each other again after i walk away. Your phone number will help us keep in touch.

What do you think? too pushy? too cheesy? Any ideas?

Cheesy and pushy.

If she is hesitant, I actually like the DD approach to it.

"Don't worry I will only call you twelve time a day. "

 

[B9]

Originally posted by tickforth
Me: Hmm, I was just wondering if I can have your phone number so may be we can catch up sometimes.

Her: Hmm, Was that question before the pick up line or something?

I like this girl.

 

[milkman]

Originally posted by tickforth
Her: Hmm, Was that question before the pick up line or something?

...Yes, that´s what it was [smile - not a freaky smile like "oh, I am catched"... but a smile like "oh, not bad, the little ho"]... [give her pen and paper] so write your number down here.

[Afterwards] So, what´s your name? [she resposes] Nice to meet you [her name], I am [a fvcking horny bastard]... talk to you later, I have to go now. Bye [slight smile].


My opinion: be honest. Don´t like the idea to find an excuse to talk to a girl. Also, it is obvious that you only ask this to get in contact with her and that you are not serious about your initial question, when asking later for her number. That´s a one way street! You don´t need an excuse to do something. What do you want? An info about something else, or her contact dates, to give you two the chance to know each other better later on?

>> [Go to her]
Hey, excuse me [Don´t smile freakly; PAUSE a moment so that she can be aware of the situation that you are speaking to her]

... "I am on my way, but I think I want to talk to you later. [little pause] what´s your name?"

[she resposes] "Hey" [her name], "I am [your name]. Why don´t you give me your number and we can chat sometime" [by saying this, give her a pen and a piece of paper - pretend like you have to search for it a little, like you do not really know if you have something to write. Better give her not a blank sheet, but for example an old recept or something else printed.]


>> in the case above, often you will be not sure, if she is single, except she will tell you that she is not, what is like a rejection. So, if you only want to go for Singles, you can try this:

[Go to her] "Hey, excuse me" [Pause 21..22..] "Can I ask you a quick question?"

[she responses - yes]

[a LONG pause 21...22...23...24... look like you think about something, be a bit mysterious]

Are you single? [EC!] [don´t ask in an excusatory way, but also not demanding, try out to find a middle way]

if no: "okay, have a nice day [nice smile]. Bye."

if yes: "I am on my way and have not so much time, but give me your number and we can chat soon."
[by saying this, give her a pen and a piece of paper - pretend like you have to search for it a little, like you do not really know if you have something to write. Better give her not a blank sheet, but for example an old recept or something else printed.]

[after she has wrote it down] "So, what´s your name?" [her response] "[her name], I am [your name]. Have a nice day, bye. [slight smile and depending on the situation some light Kino, but don´t overdo this].

[some guys at this forum use a line like this and regularly report about their experiences. If you are interested, have a look at their threads].

 

[DJDamage]

It was a bad pick attempt because the environment was not in your favour.

a) She was with her dad - Most girls will not give you their numbers when they are with a situation like this, have you ever tried to hit on a chick when you are walking with your mom???

b) Usually when people are walking they are in a rush to get somewhere else, unless she sat down or stopped to check something in a store window or went in the store, stopping is the last thing on their mind.

c) Your line was lame and she read right through you - She felt that it was a line and you shouldn't give the vibe like you want her so bad. You were pressed for time, it didn't come out natural nor funny and you immediatly went for the number.

You had a chance to somewhat salavage yourself when she throw you a curve ball by saying" Hmm, Was that question before the pick up line or something?" But instead you reverted back to the non confident mode and she picked up that your confidence was fake.

She didn't want to give you her number and she went to her parent to avoid confertation with you. You got to work on your game.

 

[eric66]

Originally posted by tickforth
Okay, I was at a mall strip today wandering around with one of my friend to search for chics. Then we saw this hot chic 9 waking in front of us on the phonewith her dad(on the phone again!!!http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&postid=568339#post568339). Anyway, she hung up quickly, which I aproach her, and the convo goes like:

Me: Excuse me, I don't mean to bother you, but i was looking for a place to buy some Shiseido cream for my younger sister. Do you know any place around here?

Her: Hmm, I am not sure... There's a place over there(she pointed to that direction) that sells creams, I've just got some from there. But i am not sure if they have Shiseido.

Me: Over there? Okay. Do you know any other places around here that sell it?

Her: No sorry...

Me :That's ok. Thanks.

Then she started to walked away, when I caught up with here instantly and goes:

Me: Hmm, I was just wondering if I can have your phone number so may be we can catch up sometimes.

Her: Hmm, Was that question before the pick up line or something?

Me(started to stuff up, I started to lose my confident a little bit and started to stumble a little and couldn't make my self clear here, And couldn't remember exactly what i was saying. It was something like this but my voice was soft): well, I thought It woud be nice if we can catch up, err since you are such a nice girl.

She was a bit hesitating and thoughtfull if she should give me her number then, at that time her Dad came and she waived to him. She walk to her dad while turn around and said:

Wait...

I felt a litttle awkward just to stand there and wait, so i Instantly looked back to my friend where he walks towards me. I told him to walk away first and let me close with phone number. By the time I turn back she was already walking away with her parents, then she turn back to me. I immediately waived goodbye to her, she waived back. And I've no phone numbers!!!

Guys, What could I have done better? should I have also approach her Parents and say hi or chase after her when she was leaving?I know i stuffed up a little bit after my cheesy(or not?) opening line. I somehow lost confident after i got the convo going. because I wasn't prepare to find something in her to compliment properly. This is the first time I do this, so i know I've lots to learn.

Your fvcking sad men! LMAO!

 

[tickforth]

Re: Re: Got her talking with the opening, then stuffed up!

[/B]Originally posted by milkman
[she resposes] "Hey" [her name], "I am [your name]. Why don´t you give me your number and we can chat sometime" [by saying this, give her a pen and a piece of paper - pretend like you have to search for it a little, like you do not really know if you have something to write. Better give her not a blank sheet, but for example an old recept or something else printed.]
[/B]

Another mistake I made was that i didn't have paper and pen ready to give to her.

Eric66, your lame comment is not helping me or neither anyone else reading this thread. You can LYAO, but you are not going to gain any respect from anyone in this site. I will be surprise you could have done better than me judging from your stupid comment. I posted this thread to share my experience, and learn what i could have done better. As it was said thousand times here before, if you have nothing constructive to say. stfu.

 

[saki]

Re: Re: Got her talking with the opening, then stuffed up!

Originally posted by eric66
Your fvcking sad men! LMAO!

It is funny, but we all have done stupid **** and hes learning, its all apart of the game. Good try man, keep doing it and you will see improvement with results : )

 

[milkman]

Re: Re: Re: Got her talking with the opening, then stuffed up!

Originally posted by tickforth
Another mistake I made was that i didn't have paper and pen ready to give to her.

You haven´t really done a mistake. You have done a major step to improve yourself.

If everything would work at the very beginning or you would succeed all the time, life would be boring, wouldn´t it?

Keep it going on, it´s your exciting life that you will earn.

And to the pen: think about buying a small pen that you can easily put in your pocket. You can also invest in a nice looking one, because the pen not only will help you by approaching hot women, but also everytime, you want to remember something interesting.

milkman

 

[Walden]

Good trying little bro.

What you did wrong was you tried to close without building rapport, and you lost her after the question cos you didn't bridge from the question part to just normal conversation.

In order to bridge you need to realise that she'll assume the interaction is supposed to finish after she answers (even if she likes you). Therefore you need to keep her in the convo for about a minute or two so that now the conversation has taken on a life of it's own.

To bridge you need to be able to tell a it of a story or at least have something to say in that thirty seconds.
To bridge from that shiseido bit (which is killer BTW) you could talk about how your sister is all self conscious and stuff about her skin , even tho she's only eleven, you know it's like she could get the skin of a teenage by just waiting eighteen months ... (or similar).

The point is after that you need to express an interest in the girl (so youre not just strangers talking ) by saying something along the lines of "you know (pause) youre kinda cute , are you single"

Then go for the close.

But your instincts were good.

If that all seems like alot to remember you can just go with a direct opener , which is scarier to do , but saves all that build rapport , bridge , express interest bollocks.

I've been using ;

MW:"Excuse me...I don't mean to interrupt you but I noticed you coming up the street there and thought you had a really nice style about you...(and sometimes add) and so I wanted to meet you.

HB : Oh thank you ...

MW: "What's your name?"

HB: I'm HB

MW: Hi HB I'm Mike.(pause) What are you up to in town today?

If youre gonna use it, practice it out loud about a dozen times to make sure youre using good tonality. Slow, and confident. At firsts it'll seem like a lot to say but chicks will always stop to hear it.

Good luck and good hunting.

 

[tickforth]

Originally posted by Walden


To bridge from that shiseido bit (which is killer BTW) you could talk about how your sister is all self conscious and stuff about her skin , even tho she's only eleven, you know it's like she could get the skin of a teenage by just waiting eighteen months ...

This is exactly what i was looking for to bridge the convo, a smooth convo transition from asking for directions, time, lighter etc.. to asking for her name, phone numbers. Oh well... Practice makes perfect.