got Friend vibe how to respond

[caught inside]

Because I work 80-100+ hours a week I don't get out very much. I chatted up this girl at a bar that I was mildly attracted to we did some shots and I did something out of character, I straight up asked for her number.

We met up for drinks and had a lot of fun. I put zero effort into planning this and we just sat at the bar for 2 hours talking and laughing, both getting past the touch barrier and kissing. Both texted each other the next day saying we had fun and should meet up again and that we actually had a lot in common.

Bout 4 days later I try to set up a second date and her response was she wanted to be honest and only got a "friend vibe" between us and would def. hang out again as long as I'm ok with that. I'm not even upset but I want know how do you respond? total silence? I was thinking that "while I do respect her honestly thats not really why I asked for your #"

???

 

[EveryPostHere]

Eventhough she said the friend vibe, I'm still going to tell you to pump n dump. So what if you get friendzoned? It's only important to pump n dump. Either that or drop her with no contact. NC man NC.

 

[VladPatton]

You say nothing for now. Let her contact you. Ball's in her court. In the event you hang with her again, proceed as if she said nothing about the friend zone. If she stops you once again, stick a fork in it and next her, nothing much you can do.

 

[Igetit!]

Eventhough she said the friend vibe, I'm still going to tell you to pump n dump. So what if you get friendzoned? It's only important to pump n dump. Either that or drop her with no contact. NC man NC.

Da hell? Uhh.....didn't you read the Op's post?

How is he supposed to "pump and dump" her when SHE SAID she didn't feel any chemistry/attraction from their ONE AND ONLY meeting so far?

She was open.....was honest......and was STRAIGHT UP with the OP,not leading him on,flaking,or playing games.

She was up for going out and seeing if the two of them clicked on a romantic level.....they went out and she only felt a "friendly" vibe...and SAID SO.


She flat out said she didn't feel any sexual attraction,so how's he supposed to have sex with her? Doesn't make any sense,dude.


OP......let her go. You want sexual interest,she said she's only up for being friends,so let it go. She was straight with you,so YOU BE straight with her. I'd just tell her I'm kinda looking for a bit more than friendship,thank her for being honest,wish her well,then go on to the next girl.

Personally,I wish ALL WOMEN were just like her.

 

[caught inside]

Yeah I gotta admit, I was impressed by her straight up honesty

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Yeah I'm impressed by her to be honest, 99.9% of women want no part of that confrontation so they'd just flake or go ghost on you.

But yeah, I would be straight up with her right back. Just say you're not interested in friendship and say "if you change your mind, you know how to reach me" or something to that effect.

I don't think ignoring her after she texted you that is going to do anything anyway.

 

[Yorkex]

Stay back & don't msg her till she does then be upfront ...I want more than friendship , she says not then drop her simple. Take a walk outside right now & you will find 20 of her type within an hour.

 

[salinechow]

Nah. I have gotten this responce from two woman after the number close and first interaction. Both I hooked up with afterwards. One ended up FZ me anyway after sleeping at my house and showing me her tits and snuggling all night(my fault I am sure) the other, is my Train Girl. Who also I have been out with on 5 dates since and got her naked at my house and bombed again.

Should you not have these sex closing issues like I do heres what you do.

Text her back this:

O good. I was kinda worried about that vibe myself. Now that we cleared that up. We are both a good time so lets have a good time. Ill return the engagement ring and we can spend the money on booze and gambling.

 

[GS750]

Play it cool and just say "okay, no worries". Then go dark, if she changes her mind she'll get in touch with you. After not hearing from you for a bit, she just might. She was honest with you so just accept it and next.

 

[_sideways_]

Booze and gambling text for sure

 

[Yewki]

O good.
I was kinda worried about that vibe myself. Now that we cleared that up. We are both a good time so lets have a good time.
Ill return the engagement ring and we can spend the money on booze and gambling.

The parts in bold would make a great response IMO. The stuff inbetween is extraneous and doesn't really make sense though (you also felt the friend vibe, but still got an engagement ring?)

 

[EveryPostHere]

Da hell? Uhh.....didn't you read the Op's post?

How is he supposed to "pump and dump" her when SHE SAID she didn't feel any chemistry/attraction from their ONE AND ONLY meeting so far?

She was open.....was honest......and was STRAIGHT UP with the OP,not leading him on,flaking,or playing games.

She was up for going out and seeing if the two of them clicked on a romantic level.....they went out and she only felt a "friendly" vibe...and SAID SO.


She flat out said she didn't feel any sexual attraction,so how's he supposed to have sex with her? Doesn't make any sense,dude.


OP......let her go. You want sexual interest,she said she's only up for being friends,so let it go. She was straight with you,so YOU BE straight with her. I'd just tell her I'm kinda looking for a bit more than friendship,thank her for being honest,wish her well,then go on to the next girl.

Personally,I wish ALL WOMEN were just like her.

I don't have to read the OP's post to get it. Anything over two paragraphs is too long. Pump n dump goes with everything. It's like the new Guile's theme.

 

[Trump]

Because I work 80-100+ hours a week I don't get out very much.

I try to set up a second date and her response was she wanted to be honest and only got a "friend vibe" between us and would def. hang out again as long as I'm ok with that. I'm not even upset but I want know how do you respond? total silence?

I think I mentioned it before, but I would say

"I can agree to hanging out as friends, as long as we can have sex at the end of the date."

 

[Meisterman]

Say "Okay no problem" but decline the activity that you two would be doing as "friends." Let her know you aren't interested in that. And walk away/let her contact you. There's not much else to do.

 

[LMFAO]

"That's OK we can get to know each other better and who knows I'm not looking for anything serious too fast .. up to you I'm happy either way".

Framing this in such a way that you're not looking for a girlfriend but a potential fvck buddy at first, and that you don't care too much anyway. In other words treating it as a sh!t test.

If there is another date make sure you escalate towards sex.