"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Got flaked, some feedback appriciated

mutambo

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First of maybe bit long but would be nice to get some feedback

So met this gall at a party, hit off pretty well. Kinoed crap outta here and she back etc.
So things come along pretty good, I see she is very into me high IL, and we end up setting a date
(like 4 weeks after we first met, but I was busy, yes and that was tru the phone one week ago), she sounded all excited. And I'm thinking great.

So we agreed on seeing eachother in a bar near her house, I would give her a ring when I would be there.
The day comes along and I am this place give her a call.. nothing wait 2 minutes or so and still nothing.
So i get my sh*t togheter and just leave and get with some friends.

Now she still hasn't called, and i think she has some of these dumb friends who tell her that she needs to play a game with me, wich i aint buyin.
Therefor biggest part of me is saying NEXTTT.. Or she has to very apologetic and offer something hereself. else im tru with her.

Opiniones would be very apriciated. :yes:
(in those four weeks we saw eachother once and spoke so... its actually 2.5 weeks that i did not call her technically speaking)

UPDATE BELOW its funny
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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waiting 4 weeks to hang??? seems like a long time

i think u are accurate in that she wants you to chase but since you waited 3 weeks before a phone call id let the first flake slide and call her later
 

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Ye well forgot to mention it was due to holidays and various weird reasons, including my exams (I need my time and she most defenitly can wait).
In the mean time I once looked her up on the campus spoke and briefly, at that time she seemed very intressted too. That was the last physical contact we had and that was like 2 weeks ago.
Ye i know it's complicated. Tho it anoys me cause i wasted ~15 min of my time on this, and I aint getting a decent apology.
Well whatever if she doesnt call she aint gonna hear from me anymore. Cause I know she has my number saved and saw 2 missed calls.
thanks anyhow saber
 

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So we agreed on seeing eachother in a bar near her house, I would give her a ring when I would be there.
DON'T DO THAT!! Just tell her to show up. Don't say that you're going to call when you get there. It's much easier to just tell her when to be there. She's much more likely to show.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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***** THE UPDATE ****


Hahaha well I got an update for ya. This is the funniest sh*t that ever happend to me.

So I got into class today, and the gall was there too (dont know why, not even same year or whatever). And I pretty sure she spotted me, cause i was near.
As soon as the class ended she started getting the f*ck outta there, i have never seen some one that scared hahah i just laughed. So actually pushed people outta the way etc.

At the end of the day I saw her working so I just sat down and it started;
I just said hey, etc and she started making bs small talk like how are you. I asked her about what happend. Got some bs like a meeting or somesh*t like that did not really pay attention. And she started acting all confused, looking for her mobile, and said she tried to reach me, but didnt have the right number (ye right, talked twice). I just said well oke I know whats going on, smiled, and said im off later. If she ever contacts fine, im not going to.

I think that was the right thing to do.
 
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See, that was easy. I'm glad you read her well, some guys would waste time on this when there is nothing there. Move on.
 

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Yes I'm even more pumped now than ever to go out and DJ, Hell she doesnt know whats shes missing out im f*cking fine :D
Haha weird contradiction but it's true.
 

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You miss every shot you don't take. - Wayne Gretzky.

I'm sure you can appreciate that Dikembe.
 
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