got dumped

[t510]

I got dumped earlier. I'm hurting right now. I ended the call quick and didn't swear her out or anything.
I probably didn't take the relationship seriously and she lost interest. Or she just lost interest/ or seeing someone else. In fact, it seems like she's still a little interested..
It's real tough. What can I tell you... what are you going to do.
Any help is appreciated. I plan to not even pay attention to my phone for a couple weeks to see if she texts/calls. If I happen to see her name Ill just ignore it. I don't have much motivation right now

 

[GADavid]

I know the feeling. Never let your guard down; that's when you get blind sided

 

[evan12]

Do you want her back or no ? so we can help you in your direction

 

[t510]

Well, I probably took her for granted. And yeah, I do want her back. I just didn't know if I was ready for a LTR so I probably blew it...

 

[Dhoulmagus]

dude there's always someone else

 

[t510]

how do I get her back?

 

[Night-hawk]

First. Take it out of your mind that you 'lost' her. That will only lead to creating a larger chasm between you and her. You need to remember your value, which can be hard as self shaming starts to take root. Don't water that ****, because although there is pain you can choose to use it for self reflection or pity. Step back and get clear, and start to feel like your self, then you can navigate. It's hit and miss at these points. Either let it go and let her miss you or go for it and make something happen just gauge her responses and actions not her words necessarily. And make sure you see her in person rather than chat about **** over the phone or text.

Be careful too with the getting her back idea because it can lead to 'walking on eggshells' which becomes stepping lightly out of fear of displeasing her and hearing the crunching sound of worry and uncertainty of her potentially leaving/ ending things again. That too can mess with your sense of value. Or it can lead you to become annoyed and disappointed and make it easier for you to be ok with moving

Think about things about her, yourself, and whatever else to brush some seriousness off this whole thing too.

Best to yah.

 

[adam225]

how do I get her back?

Simply put... you don't. Sorry man, but it will never be the same again.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=160056

 

[Stort_Brød]

^^^^^ pretty much sums it up bro. there is a 1% chance that it could work out long term.

this sort of thing has happened to the majority of blokes and I'm sure many of them on here. yeah sure you get back with her and it is all fine and dandy for the first couple weeks / months BUUUUUUT down the road you both will more than likely fall back into old habits and break up again. or just try to continue and stay miserable.

I would much rather break up with a new pvssy than break up with the old one again. I take it that you are quite young? go out and experience some new girls and have some fun. LTR is overrated

 

[adam225]

Yep, yep... you might as well get over now (the easy way) instead of trying to hold on (and be back to the start again in X amount of time). Unless you can both become spiritually enlightened it'll never workout.

 

[t510]

can I ask for breakup sex

 

[adam225]

If you wish. Make sure you push for anaI though. Then stick it in her mouth lol.

 

[luber873]

LTR is overrated

+1. I thought this is what I wanted too. But ended up with an insecure girl who disrespected me. Give it a few days/weeks and you might just notice you're happier without her.