Got dumped for being "more into it than her"

[flashpoint]

sometimes i wonder what the real problem is with the "i luv u" line. i tend to think it is that everything all of a sudden becomes pretty serious and a longterm thing, so it is almost necessary to take a closer look. at EVERYTHING.

now we know how nitpicking girls can be, complaining is the essence they live in. maybe that is it. you say it and she starts finding reasons why not to love you back. even if she might have felt it too before. still her findings will be that you are just not "the one". and she will feel guilty about it and act volatile, one day loving you and showing you all kind of affection, the other day realizing that this doesnt do sh!t for her and all of a sudden becoming icecold and distant. chicks are crazy. the get a good thing and find ways to convince themselves that they dont deserve it. even if that is exactly what they wanted before. that is why you can give it to them only in small doses until they reach some sort of tolerance for it, and also why you need to make them work for it. they have to realize why they deserve.

anyways. i digress. back on topic: dont do alcohol in the game. unless of course it is getting her drunk so she can make all the bad decisions. not you.

 

[mtnbiker]

sometimes i wonder what the real problem is with the "i luv u" line. i tend to think it is that everything all of a sudden becomes pretty serious and a longterm thing, so it is almost necessary to take a closer look. at EVERYTHING.

now we know how nitpicking girls can be, complaining is the essence they live in. maybe that is it. you say it and she starts finding reasons why not to love you back. even if she might have felt it too before. still her findings will be that you are just not "the one". and she will feel guilty about it and act volatile, one day loving you and showing you all kind of affection, the other day realizing that this doesnt do sh!t for her and all of a sudden becoming icecold and distant. chicks are crazy. the get a good thing and find ways to convince themselves that they dont deserve it. even if that is exactly what they wanted before. that is why you can give it to them only in small doses until they reach some sort of tolerance for it, and also why you need to make them work for it. they have to realize why they deserve.

anyways. i digress. back on topic: dont do alcohol in the game. unless of course it is getting her drunk so she can make all the bad decisions. not you.

I think thisis spot on for my situation. She even said that me making my feelings known twice made her reall examine things. We were compatible, but I believe she found a reason or reasons to just not go there yet.

So avoid getting drunk in the beginning stage or just avoid alcohol in the beginning stage?

 

[omega05]

That sucks but it just seems like a typical female thing to do. Anyway use this as a learning experience. Just dont say I love you first next time.