Got blown out today

[Oatmeal31]

I had a long streak of positive reactions for a couple months and normally it's fun to go out and approach because the girls laugh and engage back. But today was different. I went out and cold approached again. My approaches were fundamentally the same and I still got blown out with most approaches, getting looks of disgust, being ignored, basically everything I was dealing with a few months ago.

Today was not fun for the most part. Trying to have conversation was like pulling teeth and all the stuck up b!tches were out today.

Just a reminder that you could do everything right and many things are still out of your control.

Also a reminder that Chicago sucks d!ck

 

[Clockwerk50]

I skimmed through your title and I thought it said “Got my back blown out today”.

 

[Oatmeal31]

I skimmed through your title and I thought it said “Got my back blown out today”.

lol. life does that to ya sometimes

 

[BaronOfHair]

Just a reminder that you could do everything right and many things are still out of your control

Assumes facts not yet in evidence: These approaches which "were fundamentally the same", yet still resulted in you getting "blown out"/"getting looks of disgust, being ignored, basically everything I was dealing with a few months ago"....

Where were you conducting these approaches(gotta be more specific than Chicago), what time of day, what type of chicks, and what exactly did you say?

 

[Oatmeal31]

Assumes facts not yet in evidence: These approaches which "were fundamentally the same", yet still resulted in you getting "blown out"/"getting looks of disgust, being ignored, basically everything I was dealing with a few months ago"....

Where were you conducting these approaches(gotta be more specific than Chicago), what time of day, what type of chicks, and what exactly did you say?

Everything was the same. I wore a different shirt, and it was hotter than usual. Happy?

 

[Isildur1]

i've been out doing cold approach with a variety of men - i've seen male models get blown out all the time - everyone gets blown out , statistically theres nothing you can do to stop it. it's part of the game

 

[Oatmeal31]

i've been out doing cold approach with a variety of men - i've seen male models get blown out all the time - everyone gets blown out , statistically theres nothing you can do to stop it. it's part of the game

Cheers. Where do you guys approach? Looking at other options

 

[BaronOfHair]

Everything was the same. I wore a different shirt, and it was hotter than usual. Happy?

Nope, I'm not yet satisfied, and I hope you're not either. So again:

-Whereabouts were you approaching these gals? Holiday Inn's hotel bar, The Cook.County Fair, the locker room at Curves... Be specific

-Did these approaches take place mid-morning, in the afternoon, later in the evening... When, exactly?

-What did you say during the course of these cold approaches? If you can't recall verbatim, provide us with a general idea

It's nigh impossible to provide much of a response to your initial post, beyond "That's rough", without knowing some more details

 

[Oatmeal31]

Nope, I'm not yet satisfied, and I hope you're not either. So again:

-Whereabouts were you approaching these gals? Holiday Inn's hotel bar, The Cook.County Fair, the locker room at Curves... Be specific

-Did these approaches take place mid-morning, in the afternoon, later in the evening... When, exactly?

-What did you say during the course of these cold approaches? If you can't recall verbatim, provide us with a general idea

It's nigh impossible to provide much of a response to your initial post, beyond "That's rough", without knowing some more details

Wasn't really looking for feedback. Just an example that you could do right by your your approach and things will be out of your control regardless. I've already provided all that info and gotten feedback in other posts

 

[zekko]

This could have been a good thread if you had left out the "out".

 

[CoolWave1331]

Well give yourself a pat on the back

You did something the great majority of men are unwilling to do: cold approach

The great majority of time you will get rejected. Most women will be cool about it and try to let you down politely - a small % will be nasty.

Either way if you just have a string of rejections (whether they let you down gently or not) it's not really good for your self esteem. Cold approaching is good to get over initial shyness and being able to talk to "anyone at anytime". Once you get to this point I do think you should maybe do "warm" approaches - go after the one's that show interest in you. The fact of the matter is most women would rather not be bothered if they don't find the man that approaches attractive.

If what comes to mind or what you want to respond to what I wrote above is: But Coolwave only the fat unattractive girls show interest in me. I guess that means time to "level up", doesn't it?

 

[characternote]

that's what happens, my man! It's random. Today you came across the girls who didn't think you are hot. Some days you go out and you're lucky enough that there's many girls for whom you are kind of her 'type'. Numbers game.