"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Got asked out by waitress. But..

jd782

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Ok. Recently. I got asked out by this waitress that I know. I've actually known her for a year. But just as a customer. I take my grandfather to this restaurant regulary. She's a couple years younger than me. I'm 33. She's 26. Ok. Here's the problem. So far, we just go out as friends. I'm afraid of trying to progress things. Not because I'm scared. But because. What if we get serious, then maybe breakup, then I have to find a new place to take my grandfather to. He's 84. It's not like we can hit every cool place to eat. If it was just me, I'd move on then. But I'm kind of thinking for 2.

But, what if I blow a sure thing by not taking it further. Remember. She asked me out. Half the effort on my part wasn't needed.

Any advice?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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who gives a damn if you break up with her. You can still eat there; wtf is she gonna do, poison your food? It sounds like now you're just fooling around wasting time. She "asked you out," but you're going out as JUST FRIENDS?! What the hell does that mean?

besides, your grandfather is very old. He may die any minute; who cares about his future restaurant trips?

Quit being a chump, quit worrying so much, and just take action.
 

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Dont listen to Obsidian.

Listen to me.

I am wise. I am 19.

Now, This is what you're going to do.....

You are going to take this girl out, sure, but she is going to pay for your ****.

She is going to be making all the moves on you.

She is going to progress towards sex with you.

Not you. She asked you out, now let her prove to you shes worthy of getting pounded by your golden PeePee.


Also, whatever you do, DO NOT GET ATTACHED.

Play it cool. Dont ever get clingy, insecure, jelouse, REMEMBER, only let her CHASE YOU. Not the other way around. Just play it cool.

Keep her for as long as you can, so you and your gramps can start getting really good discounts from this h0e.

Real talk.
 

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yeah, he's really being a man by going out with her as friends and acting like her girlfriend. You guys obviously don't understand the Natural Order of Things if you expect a woman to make all the moves.

And he still hasn't clarified how exactly she "asked him out" but they're still "just friends."
 

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Natural Order Of Things....


News Flash, Girls Are Men These Days... They Do Make Moves If Ur The Prize.

Duuhh!!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OH and another thing i think its annoying as hell when people say throw in the word natural, as if we're all a bunch of animals that do things by instincts and cant use our heads to do what we want........
 

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Thats a stupid reason not to date her. I mean she could have to potenial to be your lover, girlfriend, or even more. Even if you do break up doesn't mean you can't eat there anymore. Another waitress will serve you.
 

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LMAO... "IF we break up we got to go to another resteraunt so i dunno"

Sperminator speaks truth.
 

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Both DonDan and Obsidian are right,she will give you signs but you have to act upon her desires.Spit game,when you see she's ready for the next step poke the comfort zone,and again and again until you're poking HER.

Yeah and stop making excuses not to do anything..sheesh she's a waitress not the owner.
 

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Women don't usually ask guys out. I would be suspecious about this, perhaps she did it to get back at some cook in the back. There you risking some sperm in your food if you get together with her.

BUT none the less. I would explore.


My suggestion, go for it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Gah, looks like I'm too late for this thread too!

Yeah, you should try your luck. Everyone else already said it. And your reasons for 'not' giving this girl a chance are bullsh!t. You're just hiding your fear.
 

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I think this is the most dumbest post on sosuave... :wave:

:moon:








DonDan said:
Dont listen to Obsidian.

Listen to me.

I am wise. I am 19.

Now, This is what you're going to do.....

You are going to take this girl out, sure, but she is going to pay for your ****.

She is going to be making all the moves on you.

She is going to progress towards sex with you.

Not you. She asked you out, now let her prove to you shes worthy of getting pounded by your golden PeePee.


Also, whatever you do, DO NOT GET ATTACHED.

Play it cool. Dont ever get clingy, insecure, jelouse, REMEMBER, only let her CHASE YOU. Not the other way around. Just play it cool.

Keep her for as long as you can, so you and your gramps can start getting really good discounts from this h0e.

Real talk.
 

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jd782 said:
Ok. Recently. I got asked out by this waitress that I know. I've actually known her for a year. But just as a customer. I take my grandfather to this restaurant regulary. She's a couple years younger than me. I'm 33. She's 26. Ok. Here's the problem. So far, we just go out as friends. I'm afraid of trying to progress things. Not because I'm scared. But because. What if we get serious, then maybe breakup, then I have to find a new place to take my grandfather to. He's 84. It's not like we can hit every cool place to eat. If it was just me, I'd move on then. But I'm kind of thinking for 2.

But, what if I blow a sure thing by not taking it further. Remember. She asked me out. Half the effort on my part wasn't needed.

Any advice?

LOL....stop making excuses for yourself.

She's into you obviously, so if your attracted to her, go out with her. And if it doesn't work out find a new restaurant, big fuvkin' deal!!

You sound like a little boy, who's afraid of the dark, just dive in and see what happens. Remember you'll always end up regretting the opportunity that you let pass you by more than anything else.

Last thing: The difference between 33 and 26 is not a couple years...but in any case age doesn't matter at all.




PIMP
 

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This is a touchy subject. I had a situation awhile back where I would go the local coffee shop hangout. There was a waitress there who was really cute and always really flirty. Blond with a nice body. One day I decided to ask her what she was doing after work. She says nothing. So I invite her to do something after.

We end up going to the park where I kiss her and she's receptive.But the girl is a talker and cute as she is her constant yakking is annoying. Anyway I figured I'll take her back to my place and see what happens. The girl is a totally easy lay,great juggs ,so-so ass. But after we get done all I can think of is to get rid of her.

A couple of days later she calls in the morning and I ask her what time she has to be into work. Since she works at a local coffee shop I ask her to stop by about an hour before work. She does. We have a quickie and she goes off to work.

Thing is now I have to avoid the damned coffee shop because her personality is annoying and after banging her twice, I am ok with that. She calls sometimes but I never pick up.

I would'nt feel so bad if we could have remained friends afterwards then I can still go to the shop. But I mean this chick who is so cute is still single because her personality is so annoying but she does'nt get it.

Forgot to say,at the park she actually mentioned she had a crush on me and another guy who works at some high end store down the block from her coffee shop. She asked him out,but he has'nt called her back. What sort of dumb assed thing is that to say to a guy you're hitting on????? Diarhea of the mouth this girl has !!!! The other guy is probably gay or has dealt with her type before and realizes she's not worth it.

I learned my lesson.
 

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jd782 said:
... I'm afraid of trying to progress things. Not because I'm scared. But because. What if we get serious, then maybe breakup, then I have to find a new place to take my grandfather to...
From now on, avoid all women at any cost. This is a small world and if you do get together and it doesn't work out there is always the chance of crossing paths sometime within your lifetime. WAY too much pressure to carry.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You are 33, you have been browsing this website for 5 years and you are still letting women dictate your life. Fix this and you will not have to worry about where to take your grandfather to eat.
 

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jd782 said:
Ok. Recently. I got asked out by this waitress that I know. I've actually known her for a year. But just as a customer. I take my grandfather to this restaurant regulary. She's a couple years younger than me. I'm 33. She's 26. Ok. Here's the problem. So far, we just go out as friends. I'm afraid of trying to progress things. Not because I'm scared. But because. What if we get serious, then maybe breakup, then I have to find a new place to take my grandfather to. He's 84. It's not like we can hit every cool place to eat. If it was just me, I'd move on then. But I'm kind of thinking for 2.

But, what if I blow a sure thing by not taking it further. Remember. She asked me out. Half the effort on my part wasn't needed.

Any advice?
Try the soup! I heard it's delicious.
 
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