Got a number, made a date then...

[spread_love]

I was out the other night at an Obama celebration party (go Barack Go ) and I met a cute ( I think she was, I was a little drunk) girl, we talked for a while, I complimented her a couple of times (she looked stylish and really good) and she seemed into me, trouble was, I asked her what she was doing on Friday night and she went on and on about ex boyfriends and her being reserved and this and that and that if I was asking her out, it had to be official :cuss: , and that she enjoyed the chase and wasn't going to be the chaser, so we swapped numbers and I said goodbye with a small kiss on her lips, she acted embarrassed but I think she was into it and her friends were saying to her, come on you, you loved that he did that (her friends were cool).

So, I texted her the next day and said is Friday night or Saturday night better for you?, she texted back and said she had plans for both nights (even though she told me last night that she was free and would love to have dinner with me).

The reason I posted this is not about the girl (plenty of those in the sea ), it's about what I did and said and to see if I should avoid things in the future, anyway I texted her back and said "ok I get it, great to meet you and take care".

There's a cute girl at the chemist down the road and I'm going to ask her out, any advice here?

 

[spread_love]

any thoughts on this are appreciated, did I shoot myself in the foot or did I do the right thing and cut her off because she flaked on me?

 

[hover411]

don't text to make plans dude, it reeks of weakness/p-ssiness. just call them up.

next day contact is kind of desperate/needy.

sounds like she is an immature bimbo anyways.

edit: you did cut things off prematurely. would have been better to just let it go without a response. perhaps then she MAY have texted you back later, however unlikely that may be. with your response, i don't see anyone that would respond to that.

a call is better because you could have simply asked her if she was interested in hanging out or not. a simple yes or no would have let you know where you stand. your text leaves you in limbo, not knowing if you were snubbed or if she was actually busy.

 

[JayUK]

Hey man you did good, if you hadnt let her go she would have just used you etc, getting in a good cycle of having self respect for yourself will pay off when you meet these kinda gurls!

 

[Dannyrt34]

Sometimes I wish girls would just tell you straight up if their not interested in you.. Rather than them giving you their number, and even taking the time to talk every now and then, only to flake when it comes time to make plans.

Am I the only one who would rather just get rejected straight up?

 

[spread_love]

Sometimes I wish girls would just tell you straight up if their not interested in you.. Rather than them giving you their number, and even taking the time to talk every now and then, only to flake when it comes time to make plans.

Am I the only one who would rather just get rejected straight up?

No, I feel the same way, that is why I cut this ***** off, on the night she said she had no plans on Friday night and would be keen to have dinner with me, when I asked her what night, she said she had plans for both nights.

When I look back on this, there were early warning signs, that this girl was going to be a handful, who tells a guy that they have just met that she dumped a guy because he wanted sex after 3 weeks of chasing her?

 

[spread_love]

Thanks to those that replied to my post.

 

[Dannyrt34]

No, I feel the same way, that is why I cut this ***** off, on the night she said she had no plans on Friday night and would be keen to have dinner with me, when I asked her what night, she said she had plans for both nights.

When I look back on this, there were early warning signs, that this girl was going to be a handful, who tells a guy that they have just met that she dumped a guy because he wanted sex after 3 weeks of chasing her?

Yeah, girls think their doing you a FAVOR by acting like their interested, since they think they'll hurt your feelings if they do just reject you off the bat.

Meanwhile, it only drives me nuts when they do that.

 

[dbot]

She told you she "enjoys the chase," yet you bail as soon as she says she has plans for the weekend? Come on, dude. Learn to see through her games. Call her up tonight, tell her you're picking her up in one hour, and to give you her address. If she tells you she's busy, tell her to cut the crap and wear something nice, because she's running out of time.

And when a girl tells you she doesn't want a pussy, don't go do a pussy thing like text her for a date.

 

[bam bam]

dont make plans on fri/sat any normal person has stuff to do on those two days. Avoid those days like the plague until you get to know her better. If you want to test out dbot's theory give it a shot. I make plans on text but that's because I dont give a **** about woman atm. It works more times then not if you do the work prior to texting. But try different things out no such things are rules pickup a lot of different woman try different styles tones change it all up a million and one times. Eventually you'll start to see things a little clearer and clearer. Takes us years to build a nice body, years to play beautiful music, years to get a good education, but we have this misconception that because it's socializing it comes naturally. The only thing that comes naturally is death to us. What you put in and how long you work on it is what you shall get back. I'm sure you're a bright guy take ur time and learn from your mistakes! Nothing will stop you then.

Bams

p.s timing is the key to success with woman! Lucky is opportunity striking the prepared person.

 

[spread_love]

She told you she "enjoys the chase," yet you bail as soon as she says she has plans for the weekend? Come on, dude. Learn to see through her games. Call her up tonight, tell her you're picking her up in one hour, and to give you her address. If she tells you she's busy, tell her to cut the crap and wear something nice, because she's running out of time.

And when a girl tells you she doesn't want a pussy, don't go do a pussy thing like text her for a date.

Yes, she told me she was free on the night, I told her I was going to text her and she said that was cool, I didn't bail, I got that she wasn't interested and I'm not interested in games, besides she is way to young for me.

 

[AAAgent]

you're supposed to steer away from questions that have definate answer and try to ask more open ended questions so it will be harder for her to reject you.

instead of just dinner just say something to eat, and instead of friday or saturday say weekend.

"hey would you like to grab a bite this weekend?"

This way you dont limit yourself to only dinner and have more than just those 2 days for a date.

 

[spread_love]

Interesting update:

I went to the same bar that I met this girl at tonight and lo and behold, I ran into one of the girl's friends, he asked me what happened and I just said, I wasn't down with games and she told she was free for dinner on the night, but when I asked her what day would suit her, she said she was busy.

I asked why he was so interested and he said that she talked about me a lot during the next day, I was a little taken back to be honest, but he also told me that yes, she has a boyfriend, but they are on and off a lot.

Hmmmmm...

 

[rushing dude 123]

ya dude like its been mentioned give her a call instead of text. Also don't think its over when she says she is busy, just take her word for it do it again and if she does it again...NEXT BIATCH.

 

[Prodigy746]

Dont ever text a girl asking her out. It shows low confidence and weakness. Always call chat for a bit than ask her out.

 

[Ollie]

Yes, she told me she was free on the night, I told her I was going to text her and she said that was cool, I didn't bail, I got that she wasn't interested and I'm not interested in games, besides she is way to young for me.

He knew what happened, he was saying that if a girl says she likes the chase, then puts you in a position to chase and you bail, you're not paying attention to what she says and letting your insecurity own the frame instead of your confidence. You should have been more forceful and persistent, especially after she said she enjoys the chase. I never take the first no...I see it as an obstacle no a The End.