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got a number at a club... interested in ons

foomee

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so i got a number from this girl the other night at a club. she was pretty damn drunk, but coherent enough. she would've went home with me, but some guys she was friends with were c0ck blocking me. these guys are waiters at the club and friends with her, and they don't really take to foreigners very well. at the end of the night it was around 3am and her and her friend and these two waiters wanted to go get something to eat, they invited me and my friends, but i was tired and didn't want to go. she called me on my way home and i told her to call me when she finishes eating and she can meet me at my place. but then i got home and i was too tired so i just texted her saying i'm going to sleep have a good night.

i'm in china btw.
this girl is not at all girlfriend material, she was making out with me and some other black foreigner who also wanted her throughout the night. but she rejected him. another chinese guy was trying to get with her but she rejected him and came and danced with me, etc. she dragged me to the bathroom to make out some more and i would've done it the bathroom with her, but i didn't have protection on me.

i just want to hook up with this girl. she seems freaky and fun, but she also doesn't speak much english and i don't speak much chinese. i have her number and i'm pretty sure she would remember me if i called her. but in china, texting is much easier for me because her reading and writing is probably better than her speaking and listening skills when it comes to english.

so how to i proceed? should i go out to a bar again this week and invite her? or should i just tell her one night to come to my place? i'm only looking for a hookup and i'm pretty sure that's all a girl like her would want.
what do you think?
 

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Hey man you sound like me 3 months ago.

Hows your chinese? In my instance, the exact thing happened. Like you reading my life? Except the other foreigner wasnt black, he was white, and I got dome in the bathroom.

Anyway, I called her. Told her who I was, and that she probably remembered me. She did. I told her sorry, I just got here, my Japanese is bad, so Im gonna text you. I wanna see you again, whats your email? (number and text address are separate here, maybe not in China?).

In my instance, I escalated from text, through a combination of dictionary and asking my Japanese friends what to say. I ended up seeing her a few more times, but there was no real possibility of going on any dates because my Japanese wasnt that good at that point. Just went to her place a few times. I dont really talk to her anymore. But I got that ONS you were talking about. More like multiple night stand. She had three different colors of hair. In real life. I thought they were extensions.

In conclusion, GO YOU. Have fun while you over there. Your life is tsan!
 

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powpow said:
Hey man you sound like me 3 months ago.

Hows your chinese? In my instance, the exact thing happened. Like you reading my life? Except the other foreigner wasnt black, he was white, and I got dome in the bathroom.

Anyway, I called her. Told her who I was, and that she probably remembered me. She did. I told her sorry, I just got here, my Japanese is bad, so Im gonna text you. I wanna see you again, whats your email? (number and text address are separate here, maybe not in China?).

In my instance, I escalated from text, through a combination of dictionary and asking my Japanese friends what to say. I ended up seeing her a few more times, but there was no real possibility of going on any dates because my Japanese wasnt that good at that point. Just went to her place a few times. I dont really talk to her anymore. But I got that ONS you were talking about. More like multiple night stand. She had three different colors of hair. In real life. I thought they were extensions.

In conclusion, GO YOU. Have fun while you over there. Your life is tsan!
Alright. So my Chinese sucks. I mean I can understand a little, but then speak in English. So most of that night my friend translated for me, but then again body language also doesn't require speaking so it was good.
I have a bad cold now, it's Tuesday here and I still haven't texted or called her. As we all know Saint Patty's Day is in a few days, so I'm trying to get better so I can hit a bar up that day, I'll invite her to hang out with me that night, pretty sure she will but who knows.

Tonight I'll try something along the thing you said, I'll text her and get her "qq" number, that's what everyone uses in China. If no response, then who cares I'll probably see her again at the bars in the future. I have another friend who's amazing with girls, Chinese guy and his English is great so I'll have him call her for me and act like me, doubt she'll know the difference.
 
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