"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Got a number a couple nights ago - need help

Zooey

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Hey all:

I've never been one for meeting girls in town. I tend to be more of a house party guy/meeting and escalating that same night.

I meet this girl on Friday night, we hit it off (but didn't kiss close or anything - I was on my way home anyway so we were only talking for 5-10mins tops) and I tell her we should meet up for a drink at some stage. She rummages through her handbag and pulls out her business card + writes her cell number on the back of it.

Anyway, fast forward two days and I've just flicked her a text. This isn't a "I texted her two hours ago and she hasn't replied, what do I do?" question but a more general one

QUESTION: Regardless of whether I hear back from her or anything, should I have got in contact with her earlier given that we only met briefly, and it was in town. What I mean is, it's not like I had any time to really lock it in given that I was on my way out the door when I met her. In those situations should I be flicking a girl a message/call the day after just so whatever spark has been created is still fresh. Or is the reality that in those situations where it's just a fleeting meeting that unless you nut out a time and place for a date on the spot it's probably not going to happen?

As I said, even if I hear back and set up a date, I still want to know whether I went about things in a good way.

Z.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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909pua

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do the 3 strikes and you're out method. if she doesn't text back, try back the next day...and if she still doesn't, try the next day again ...if she doesn't get back to you by the 3rd text, she's not interested ...NEXT!
 

drak_ool

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Zooey said:
... Regardless of whether I hear back from her...
If you haven't heard back from her by now, chances are you never will...

i think in your situation you could have sent her a txt on your way home, right after leaving the bar. At that point, if she txts you back, then you automatically know you ve generated SOME interest, if she doesn't, then you know not to waste your time with her later down the road. I found myself in the same situation as you last week, I was at a club and hit it off well with this girl but I had to leave. To make a long story short, we exchanged numbers, and then after I left the place a few txts. 2 days later, she was the one who contacted me!

keep in mind that some PUAs use this technique of talking to girls for 5 min, then ejecting, as their main strategy. However, it is a numbers game, it s kinda hard to do if you only got one number...

one last thing: I dont agree with 909PUA's 3 strikes thing. If you txt a girl who's number you just got and she doesn't txt you back, she s not interested. Move on. What s the point of txting her again? You think her interest level will go up?
 
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