"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Got a movie-thon going on!!!

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Example:

11PM....12:30AM....2:00AM.....etc....Late night

Me....Lets hang out, I got a movie thon going on....

Her...What are you watching.

Me...Dark knight, hangover....tons of options!!!....etc

Her...Cant..got to be up early....


ALWAYS HAPPENS.... Same s*it....Different girls


Sometimes I bypass it by saying...."Your offer stands untill 9PM(Or a specific time)..it either self destructs or gets offered to someone else)....

Sometimes doesn't work though...


What would you do in this situation?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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isnt it funny how they always ask where/when/why/how before declining the offer.

she could just had said "sorry gotta be up early tomorrow" right off the bat.
 

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Tiguere said:
isnt it funny how they always ask where/when/why/how before declining the offer.

she could just had said "sorry gotta be up early tomorrow" right off the bat.
Ive pulled it off a couple of times but sometimes it doesnt work, maybe im not building up enough attraction..not sure here
 

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the trick is to invite them over but earlier...9pm would work. talk for a bit, then bring out the movies. Also what works for me is to have alcoholic drinks like wine, liquor or wine coolers.

Then keep piling on the movies, one right after the other and before you know it, its 2am
alcohol in her system + you building up the sexual tension and attraction the whole night= her wanting to stay over
 

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Crissco said:
Her...What are you watching.

Me...Dark knight, hangover....tons of options!!!....etc
I've read a number of posts like this and I can't help but notice:
Usually the guy invites the girl to watch some superhero or action flick (in other words, a movie that a guy would mainly be interested in), and the girl declines.

Now you don't want her to be thinking you're over there watching The Notebook but there must be some sort of compromise. Something I've done in the past is offer to drop by the video store and say "You pick one, and I'll pick one".
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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zekko said:
I've read a number of posts like this and I can't help but notice:
Usually the guy invites the girl to watch some superhero or action flick (in other words, a movie that a guy would mainly be interested in), and the girl declines.

Now you don't want her to be thinking you're over there watching The Notebook but there must be some sort of compromise. Something I've done in the past is offer to drop by the video store and say "You pick one, and I'll pick one".
I noticed that too...I usually just pick random movies i know i have off the top of my head...

I like that idea of going to the video store, too bad mine closed down...I think next time im going to say i have on demand and theres tons of movies to choose from...



Last night i was going to hang out with this chick then she asks what we are going to do...Thought of something off the top of my head then she pulled the she has work early...I said...Your offer stands untill 9PM(Or a specific time)..it either self destructs or gets offered to someone else)

Never responded....Im surprised too bc that always works for me.

Also used its a suprise on some girls when i have nothing to think of lol, but alot dont like surprises bc of trust issues.

Theres gotta be something else I can say after they say "What are we doing/watching....
 

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Thatfeel21 said:
the trick is to invite them over but earlier...9pm would work. talk for a bit, then bring out the movies. Also what works for me is to have alcoholic drinks like wine, liquor or wine coolers.

Then keep piling on the movies, one right after the other and before you know it, its 2am
alcohol in her system + you building up the sexual tension and attraction the whole night= her wanting to stay over
I never use alch and I get it 85% of the time...A makeout session 100% of the time...I dont need alch. Im very direct with what i want, its either they go for it or they dont.
 

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"moviethons" aren't really looked as a cool thing. What you're saying is you're going to sit around and watch a bunch of movies and you need company. It doesn't come across well. It's not the same as directly telling her you want to get together, maybe have some drinks and watch a movie, etc.
 

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Logistics. Each girl is different. You need to prep her first by talking about movies and finding a common interest. Fluffing about movies is important if movie sex is on your agenda. The way I work, and what I do t get them round mine is....

1. First meeting talk about movies. Anyone can talk about movies,find out what kind of movies she likes.
2. When she mentions her favourite, or favourite vein, of movie, tell her you've been meaning to watch watch a movie that was recommended to you by a mate and that she would probably like it.
3. Change the conversation and don't even bring up her coming to yours. At all.
4. A few days later... Text/ call whatever, tell her you acquired the movie and that she's coming round at x time on x day to watch it. Simple.

Your problem is that you're throwing it out there with no interest and no preparation.
 

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Thatfeel21 said:
the trick is to invite them over but earlier...9pm would work. talk for a bit, then bring out the movies. Also what works for me is to have alcoholic drinks like wine, liquor or wine coolers.

Then keep piling on the movies, one right after the other and before you know it, its 2am
alcohol in her system + you building up the sexual tension and attraction the whole night= her wanting to stay over
Agreed. I've had better success making plans like this at like 5pm mid-dayish. Anything after 10pm or or so, they either have another option already or they feel like a booty call. That's why I generally call/text mid day and chat them up a bit, and make them feel "good" and send the invite out early. 8pm-3am is when all the other drunk guys are trying to get them to come and sleep over and sh!t. Try not to fall into that category.

Perhaps try working on rapport a bit too. I generally start my text conversations with a "hey babe :)". Works for me. But I play the whole sweet talker game like a motha fvcking pro. Haha.

-Scars
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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If you invite someone late night to your place especially around 11:30 or later, it's quite obvious what you want, and girls know this because it is so direct.

And they aren't going to go to a guy's place late at night with an almost certain chance of sex, unless their interest is really, really high.
 

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Clearly it's because your movie choice is ****e, I mean come on, what girl wants to watch Dark Knight and Hangover, jeeeez. It is funny how girls always ask "what when why how who" etc before declining. When they ask what movie, I usually say "Brokeback Mountain" just to be funny.

But really, if a girl's not interested she'll say no. It really is that simple. If she likes you she'll say yes. But also listen to ArcBound.
 
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