"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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1-800-HellNo

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TL;DR: been seeing this girl, and she is causing me no drama, but I don't want an LTR. Need tips on how to keep her, without getting too serious.

What up.This is my first post.
I'm fresh out of a 2 year relationship, and not looking for another one. I'm 23 and met this 33 year old at a concert. I hit her up and we hung out. She was on her period (I know because i got her down to her panties) but i spent the night. 2nd time I saw her we hit the town again, came back and then got crazy. I like that she doesn't text me up all the time, like most girls my age would. And i've basically been excersizing the tips from this site to make her want me more and more.
So it's been like 3 or 4 weeks and we've hung out that many times. I'll sleep over and leave, and go back to my life, having little communication with her.
Yesterday I wanted to try "alpha mode" so i texted her, "I'm coming over to ravish you tonight" I was really unsure what her reaction would be, but i got ":) really?" back. Yes, tonight around 10.
"Oh I'm actually really tired from last weekend, how bout Tuesday or Wends"
I don't respond. Soon after:
"Actually I could really use a massage. Todays been really stressful."
"Ok then. See you in a few hours"
I get there, we talk for a bit, and we watched some documentary (or the first 20 minutes) and then I had the best sex of my life (think i may consider only dating older women).
Today before I left she said "Thanks" and it was really weird. I don't know what to make of it, but i'm worried she may be starting to get too attached.

I'm for sure not looking for a LTR, and told myself before I even texted her that she was gonna be my first "experiment" with getting girls to just hook up with.
She hasn't texted me all day, which is good, but I'm still wondering what I'm supposed to do.
What happens when she wants to start seeing me more? Should I just dump her if she starts getting too attached?

Thanks for any advice, looking forward to what the future holds!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Sandow

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Friends with benefits, or casual hookups, all come to end at some point. They never last forever.

Kudos for getting her attached. I mean, isn't this what this site is for?

But to answer your question specifically. You said you do not want an LTR. When she wants to be more, you don't have to dump her. She's the one that has to decide what she wants. You'll make it clear that you only want to hook up, and chances are this will only make her want you more. And if she wants to end it, no biggie cause you never wanted anything anyhow.
 

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I had one last 24 years, with a married chick, and it would still be going on today, 8 years later, except i moved away. she gained a TON of weight after I left, so going back is ootq.
 

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30s broads are great in the sack.

Don't read too much into the "Thanks" part. She's just polite and grateful for the good F.

My last two ONS' thanked me. Mature ladies often do this. They have some manners/class.

I'm not seeing any signs of attachment (yet) in your post. But I'm not there, so I don't have all the details.
 

1-800-HellNo

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Yea it's been cool.
I'm not ever texting her unless she texts me (which is every couple of days). I went over Thursday night and haven't heard from her since.

Sometimes I want to say something to her, so she doesn't feel like I'm waiting for her to make all the moves, or whatever, but I don't know.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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