"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Got 2 numbers - now what?

guywhoneedshelp

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I have an idea of how I'm going to play this but I'm curious as to what the people here have to say.

Me and my friend got these 2 girls numbers the other day. There's one I'm more interested in then the other. Should I call and set up a time for the 4 of us to hang out? Call to setup a date? Call her just to remind her that she was terrible at pool and definitely needs a rematch sometime? Call to have her meet me somewhere after work? What do you guys think.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Depends. If you had some rapport when you got her number then you can call her or txt her to go out. I'd recommend just you and her. When you ask her out assume the deal is closed. I'd txt something like "Ok if you so insist, blockbuster night at my place tonight. make sure you dont wear heavy clothing bc my ac is broken and its hot here", is she says no or idk, you respond with "ok have you seen such movie? we're gonna watch that" be persistant till she agrees.

If you didnt have much rapport then make sure you do when you call her. But dont mention anything about a date, hold that for the next call.
 

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Forgot about this thread. Made my first attempt at contacting her yesterday. Told her via text "Hey me and Mike are going back to D+B (place we met) tonight...not that you would want to show your horrible pool skills again"

we got into texting back and forth, me teasing her, then saying "yea a bunch of my friends are gonna be there. we usually end up splitting up after a couple hours...i suppose you and I could go off together aftewards"

she responded "yea sounds like a good idea!" then said "i have to see though because my brother just came home and I want to spend some time with him. we're going to a show so after the show i'll let you know"

told her aight, to text me when she gets out and i'll let her know if i'm still at D+B

she texts at like 10:30 sayin "sry I couldn't make it" and i'm like basically "it's mad early come by!" she's like "maybe next time" so i didn't respond. I don't know if this is sh!t test or if she found somethin better to do or maybe she couldn't get her friends to come with her and felt weird going alone...i'm gonna wait for her to call me now and see what happens. then i'll take control and just do a blockbuster night like you said it's much easier. she might never call again though lol
 
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I can't believe people are telling you to ask her out through a text. A real man calls the girl, my god.

You will eventually learn that texting gets you nowhere.
See? She ditched you.. should have called.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DUDE dont listen to the texting doesnt work.........CLEARLY YOU SHOWED IT DOES WORK. You obviously have some skills just by reading your post about the teasing about how bad she was at pool.........EXCELLENT BANTER AND PERFECT EXAMPLE OF HOW ATTRACTION WORKS by the way. (newbies RE-READ HIS example of the right way to tease girls).

Texting-ALL women read texts but NOT all women answer their phones!!!. There are times when chics actually cant make it for legitimate reasons (not always a better offer). You already did your ground work on this chic.........dont just next her cause she didnt call right away.

Get that second date and escalate..........nuff said!
 
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