"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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Ceaserofnone

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What's your take on it?

I have my wife and from time to time she feels to tell me about her drama with her friends.

I tend to just listen and not say anything until shes finished and asks me what I think and always i just say "i agree" then the subject changes.

That a good way to deal with such behavior?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If you find the gossip interesting there is nothing wrong with listening to it. I do it all the time if I find it amusing. But if I'm not interested I will just ignore and respond with yeah sure whatever or something like that.
 

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Thanks for the responses.

I dont want to be dismissive as I feel like when she does discuss such things shes very emotional about it. Being dismissive just shuts her out and may bottle up that emotion. I feel if I listen she can vent and let out her annoyance.
 

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Thanks for the responses.

I dont want to be dismissive as I feel like when she does discuss such things shes very emotional about it. Being dismissive just shuts her out and may bottle up that emotion. I feel if I listen she can vent and let out her annoyance.
Let her emotionally vent, listen to it, but find a way to not give her any comments, suggestions, or advise if she asks for it or not. A logical solution or comment to her emotional problem never works.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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