I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
No reason the Playher can't improve his posting game and be a little more articulate and leave out the slurs. You should never stop improving right?Peaks&Valleys said:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I agree.Malice said:
Peaks&Valleys said:
Yeah, I'm hoping he can see past his ego. At the end of the day no one is perfect, we all have our faults to work on - he just needs to acknowledge this. His insults towards me in my early days did me good. I've been called a "beta fag" & " a white knight" :crackup: . But honestly, I thank him for it as he was right - I WAS. I don't know if I'd even class them as insults though, I'd say it's more just saying "how it is" . I'd class someone calling me a "fvcking cvnt" as an insult - not a "white knight" or "beta fag". You gotta love internet terminology lol....Malice said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
zekko said:
It's not that I wanted it - it's more that I needed it at the time. Like I say - I use to hate the guy, I literally couldn't stand the site of his user name.... until it all started to make sense :yes: . I think it's safe to say the older and more experienced DJ'S will appreciate him less than us newer up-and-coming DJ'S. The older/more experienced DJ'S already have their own outlook, where as us newer lot needed unplugging (as fast as possible). And that was the thing about his approach - it unplugged you fast and got you thinking...zekko said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
