"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Good way to tell a girl you like her?

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Hey guys, I have tried to figure out this on my own before I proceed but I'm stuck so I'm gonna ask you.

I meet a girl online and during that time we lived far from each other and I didn't want to spend alot of cash just to meet up with her, we've been talking for over 2 years now and the cool thing is that about 2 months ago we both moved to the same city to study. We've been seeing each other a couple of times now, and I've been using c&f with her and it works really well. But this girl is very scared of being hurt, she always tries her best not to develop feelings for someone, she's 20 years and still a virgin and haven't had a real
relationship..ever! And I'm starting to think that c&f won't work with this girl since almost all her guy friends tease her and stuff...she's really used to it and sees it as a friendthing. So I'm thinking of being more real to her, is there a good way I can explain to her that I am interested in her and wouldn't hurt her? That I won't just have sex then dump her. I think she knows that I'm interested in her but it seems as she want to hear it from me first before getting serious. So what's your ideas on this?

This girl is not the only one in my life, just moved to a new city so I'm hooking up with lots of women but she's the one I can think myself getting serious with.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Obsidian

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just keep meeting with her, maybe lighten up on the c&f a little, and initiate kino. try to escalate. It sounds like you're doing everything mostly right, keep it up.

the best way to let her know that you're into her is by meeting her individually. Other than that, leave it unsaid.
 

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I do use kino alot to and she responds good to it when we're alone but when we're hanging out with friends she don't respond that much.

"the best way to let her know that you're into her is by meeting her individually. Other than that, leave it unsaid"

Do you mean that if she invites me over to do something with her and our friends I should say no?
 

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If you have shown here that you are not at all the "player" type of guy, and she sees you as a safe (in a good way) person, then asking her out won't hurt her. If she says no, I hope that won't hurt you either ;) Absolutely, gives her some space if she needs some.

What about the other chicks. If you are still thinking about banging them, it's better not to have a relationship with this girl yet. It'd only frustrate you.
 

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Hehe, the thing is that she sees me with other chicks when we meet up at clubs and she has this idea that I am a player. So that's why I want to explain to her that I won't play her.

I'm not into anything serious with other girls, I just keep them for options if I can't get it to work with this one girl.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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i didnt read this post... but in response to the subject title... NEVER TELL A GIRL YOU LIKE HER... its like a death wish or something...
 

alnite

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Smectron said:
Hehe, the thing is that she sees me with other chicks when we meet up at clubs and she has this idea that I am a player. So that's why I want to explain to her that I won't play her.

I'm not into anything serious with other girls, I just keep them for options if I can't get it to work with this one girl.
If you reeeallly want to be with her, then you have to try harder to convince her, depending on how she perceives you. I am no mind reader, I don't know if she likes seeing you with other chicks or jealous or hate it or what.

Depending on this, you decide whether she's a girl for you or not (not you for her). You don't want a jealous girl. That's just :trouble:
 

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I'm gonna tell you what I told this other guy in the Mature Man form,

First thing, we as men....we create our dating worlds. We form a list and example of what a particular women that WE ARE INTERESTED IN should act like, look like, etc. Then we filter the forest to find what WE ARE LOOKING FOR.

Too many of you come here and ask, "What do women want in a guy?" No...don't ask that. Instead look yourself in the mirror and ask, "What do I want in a girl?" You only live once ( that is until we all go to heaven ), and by only living once...you ought to live your life to the FULLEST. That is have the career YOU WANTED, have the friends YOU WANTED, and have the girl YOU WANTED.

Second thing, and I'm 23 and I had to learn this the hard way, complaining about the world isn't going to CHANGE IT. Only kids cry over spilled milk, adults just simply take a towel, clean it up, and move on.

Too many guys get up here and complain about women, about how majority of women in today's america are this and that....well I agree, but quite honestly, I could care less. You know why?

Because while I might be attractive to a high number of women, I only deal with women that I WANT. I can care less if what they want.

And if majority of women in today's america are full of crap, quite honestly, that's not my problem and not yours either. Let them be that way.

You must make a decision on what girl YOU WANT, and concentrate on obtaining that girl, and eliminate ANY OTHER OPTIONS.

And trust me, when you find the type of girls you are looking for, now all of a sudden you will be faced with many more options then you had before...but stay true to yourself please! Just because a chick fvcks you, does NOT MEAN...she likes you.

- DJF
 

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Fvcking her seems like a good solution for showing a chick that you like her. Always worked for me.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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