Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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dji_21

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Had class with this girl for 2 weeks(now class is over). We worked together alot and she was really into me. One day I asked for her e-mail, she grabbed a pad and wrote it down and turned red and started stuttering, saying she checks it everyday. Only bad thing I did was I joked that I'd email her in a couple months (because we're both stupid busy till then- she knows that, but I wanted to try to point out my intention was personal in nature)

I think other people heard me ask - it was real alpha male. We live pretty far away, but I dont't really care about that.

What do I do now? I know Im going to keep the e-mail short, but should I just say I enjoyed having class with her and ask for her number? Or should I tell her I'm curious if she wanted to go out?

Any thoughts would be great.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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dji_21 said:
Had class with this girl for 2 weeks(now class is over). We worked together alot and she was really into me. One day I asked for her e-mail, she grabbed a pad and wrote it down and turned red and started stuttering, saying she checks it everyday. Only bad thing I did was I joked that I'd email her in a couple months (because we're both stupid busy till then- she knows that, but I wanted to try to point out my intention was personal in nature)

I think other people heard me ask - it was real alpha male. We live pretty far away, but I dont't really care about that.

What do I do now? I know Im going to keep the e-mail short, but should I just say I enjoyed having class with her and ask for her number? Or should I tell her I'm curious if she wanted to go out?

Any thoughts would be great.
Wtf do you want to be with a woman or do you want a long distance pen pal? I mean Skype her at least. Email "?!?! C'mon what is this 1995? Talk to her on a phone, send an email make up an excuse say "I don't use my email really".

Don't just ask for her number, you have to deliver it right. "Yeah I'm not busy this night, we can chat over the phone for a bit, sweetie what's your number?"

Talk about her day, tease her about funny stuff. Just get her to open up. Find out what her fav foods are, where she would like to travel to, her dreams and all that kind of jazz. Find out what she's passionate about and what makes her tick. To get to know her inner essence, alongside building sexual attraction, is one of the most powerful things you can do.
 

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I sense this could easily turn into a meaningless pen pal thing if you're not careful.

If she lives a long way away, I'd suggest you minimize your time investment for this one.

But, if you want her, you need to get her number. And remember not to spend too much time on the phone!
 

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Thanks for the advice. She's a good one... I normally wouldn't try a long distance thing like this but...

I'm not going to try to be ****y or funny in the e-mail, just straight to teh point... but how should I ask for the number? How long should I wait
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If you know she's into you, just pick an activity and ask her to join you through email. If she replies with yes, then you're golden. Get her number and proceed. If no, then you just saved yourself a lot of time and energy.

I did this a lot when I was in college, and it worked out very well for me.
 
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