"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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good responces to hard questions

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hey fella's

just wondering,if you like a girl and you tell them,and if they DONT show any keen signs of interest what would be a good responce to these questions

what do you want out of this? -if she implies wat do u want out of me and u

how long have you liked me?

also,i heard of one girl,the guy told her he liked her and she didnt feel the same but he didnt know,and when he told her he liked her

her responce was "no comment"

now what can ya reply with to that lol
 

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Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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First off, don't tell a girl you like her- that much is obvious when you approach. If a girl asks you a serious question, give her a non-serious, lighthearted answer or ask her a question. If she doesn't want to talk about herself she's probably not interested in you, anyway and you're wasting your time. It would be in your best interest to read the DJ Bible.
 

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There are no rules.
 
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Something is very wrong with this picture. You are have guys just going up to girls and saying they like her and there is no follow-up question? It's already understood you like someone because you are approaching them and trying to talk.

The reason you are saying you like her is because it becomes the premise of the next question step: ASKING HER OUT. "Do you want to go out with me?"

You want her to admit she likes you BEFORE asking her out? You are SEEKING PERMISSION FROM HER TO ASK HER OUT or something - well there's the problem. NEVER SEEK PERMISSION FROM A GIRL TO MAKE A MOVE OR DO ANYTHING - JUST DO IT AND LET THE CHIPS FALL WHERE THEY MAY.

You like her, you ask her out, end of story.

You are not sure you like her, but there is enough rapport, close for her number.
 

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Here's something you could start doing if you'd like:

If you just walk up and say, "I like you"..... that's kind of lame. Try to think movie moment here. Their whole lives they dream of being swept off their feet. They get together with all their gfs and watch movies together and dream of that perfect moment.

That perfect moment isn't some awkward guy mumbling something and looking ashamed. KUdus for having the balls to try something, that's more than most men will ever do. Your performance sounds too flat. I think you should take some theatre man. Try to make it more like something she would dream of happening, a picture perfect moment. Use the best approach she's been dreaming of but never thinks will really happen.

That's not the only approach that works. There is tons of ways but this one works fast. In my experience the movie moment is fun and works pretty well. It also is something you can get up to speed on fairly quickly. Go to a mall and try it on a dozen girls, probably you will have a gf before you get to that many. You can show interest to most women, but it needs to be done the right way.
 

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The answer to these questions is to stop telling a girl you like them and you won't get the stupid questions in the first place.
 

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Luke Skywalker said:
Something is very wrong with this picture. You are have guys just going up to girls and saying they like her and there is no follow-up question? It's already understood you like someone because you are approaching them and trying to talk.

The reason you are saying you like her is because it becomes the premise of the next question step: ASKING HER OUT. "Do you want to go out with me?"

You want her to admit she likes you BEFORE asking her out? You are SEEKING PERMISSION FROM HER TO ASK HER OUT or something - well there's the problem. NEVER SEEK PERMISSION FROM A GIRL TO MAKE A MOVE OR DO ANYTHING - JUST DO IT AND LET THE CHIPS FALL WHERE THEY MAY.

You like her, you ask her out, end of story.

You are not sure you like her, but there is enough rapport, close for her number.
I'm suggesting to the OP he should simply approach, develop some rapport while talking to her casually to see if there's any chemistry. Ye yeah, when you're opening the girl study her body language/eye movement. After you do this enough with experience you should able able to determine rudimentary signs of interest. She doesn't need verbally say she's interested since body language already communicates much of which we need to know. Once you have established that and have a good vibe going, get her number and ask her out- It should be pretty easy at this point since you're comfortable talking to her. Keep the conversation playful and fun!
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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