Good Question: How do you support a girl without support?

[christz]

I feel so bad, because i'm not trying to become this girls emotional tampons latley we've grown really close to each other, no LJBF but that's because i ignore her calls i'd say more than half the time and call her back maybe every other time.

but see she's got this problem with one of her best friends, he's kinda abusive because he's an emotional wreak and he takes it out on her.

well i'm trying NOT to be her emotional tampon last night i ignored her call figured i'd call the next day she left me a voicemail in tears talking about how he did this and that.

and i'm feeling bad because i'm like man.. i'm NOT trying to be pushed into a friends zone. So i ignored it despite the fact that she was in tears.

Then she kept calling then finally i picked up because i didn't wanna leave her hangin + she was blowing me up. And she's like why didn't you call me back? i made up something and we went on and then she started crying and all i kept saying was "it'll be alright, things work themselvs out in the end" and kept trying to change subjects which eventully i did into sex

i mean How do you support a girl without becoming her emotional tampon?

 

[Centaurion]

Give her the number to the local women-support group and then take a step back. Last thing you want is fruitcake smashing your door in the middle of the night, trying to kill you.

just my 2 cents.

 

[spider_007]

What's with her friend. I think we need to know more about that....

 

[chuchu]

Tell her to get rid of her best friend.

If she cant do that, then she is definitly a psycho.

 

[frivolousz21]

unless u want to be her friend...dont bother with this..date someone stable

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by christz
i mean How do you support a girl without becoming her emotional tampon?

This is not a man's job!!!!!!! Consoling and comforting is best done by females - it is in their nature!!!!!!

Men kill, rape, and burn down villages - we don't have girls coming to us for comfort - unless they are psycho!!!!!

 

[BigFoot]

You can be supportive I would say, but don't get all emotionally involved with her situation. Also, since this other guy appears to be her boyfriend (or whatever), it's not clear what other role you could have here other than 'friend'.

 

[Lost In Translation]

she is having sex with this guy that is making her cry

no normal woman or wh0re would tolerate that from JUST A FRIEND

that is her PIMP and he is giving her sperm and a slap mentally until she becomes his obedient love slave

YOU are a fool for allowing her to moan and groan about how bad her PIMP treats her and how he is mean to her ( after he f*<ks her brains out )

WAKE UP TO YOURSELF !

you are worth more than to be this idiot woman's emotional tampon

say " IF HE IS SO MEAN TO YOU WHY DO YOU HANG AROUND HIM ? "

she is f*<king him

don't waste your time on the woman moaning like a wh0re

get out there and find you own women and HAVE SOME SELF RESPECT


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

 

[SteveMcQ]

Does she always call you when this stuff happens? Do you feel like she's trying to manipulate you in anyway? If so then I say get far away or at least politely explain that you are not her personal Dr. Phil.

 

[christz]

i think we got a little off base,

she doesn't hang around him in fact she cut him off, the only thing she hasent' done is done it legally, but he does still call her and leaves her voicemails about all the good times they had and how much he cares.

they've had a thing in the past about 4 years ago, he left to the marine corp got a little mentally fu*ked in iraq a lot of his friends got blown away, his mom died, his dad left him, he devloped a alchoal problem, the list is a mile long they've been friends for 4 years so you understand she is cutting him off, and ignoreing him. she doesn't return his calls. However he keeps persueing and trying.

and now she doesn't all the time come to me with the problems, only when they get really bad to the point of it makeing her cry

and as for him fu*king her hah, riiight tomorrow i'm gonna win the lottery that's how unlikley that situation is.

i only ask how can i support her without becoming a tampon, i feel bad just ignoreing her problems my situation with her is under control, i dont' fear her moveing onto other guys, i'm the one and only. i can bank on that

 

[frivolousz21]

why do u want to do this again?!