"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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il post a series of things a man might say or do to a girl to tease her in the relationship...

you guys tell me if its a good thing or bad, and maybe give an explanation


1. if she cant go out because she has work say..." well i guess ill just have to go call up my other girlfriend..."

2.saying this " well actually i have two phones...one for you, and one for the other girl so you guys cant read eachother texts"

3.i quickly asked another girl infront of my gf, why should couldnt make it to the movies...we hooked up weeks before i started dating my gf...


i dont try to make her jealous or anything, im jus teasing her.

is it ok to do this kind of stuff???

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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1. if she cant go out because she has work say..." well i guess ill just have to go call up my other girlfriend..."
that is definitely not c&f and it reeks of insecurity. You tell her that she'll know you have no other options and it will only make you seem needy. This is basically a threat to the girl trying to scare her into following your commands by telling her you have other options (girls see right through this). Just reply with short responses "some other time perhaps, latez" and try again and follow the 2 STRIKES RULE
2.saying this " well actually i have two phones...one for you, and one for the other girl so you guys cant read eachother texts"
again read #1 this is a weak attempt at c&f.
3.i quickly asked another girl infront of my gf, why should couldnt make it to the movies...we hooked up weeks before i started dating my gf...
unlike your other bad attempts and saying to her you have other options, a dj shows he has other options. Talking and even light flirting with other girls while she is there is a real way of showing that you are ready to kick your girl to the bucket if she doesn't walk the line, rather than telling her "im gonna go call my other gf,bye" which is just weak sauce that girls can spot right away.
 

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it totally depends on context. I say stuff like the first two a lot in a teasing/roleplaying kinda way. I'm just having fun and the girl knows I'm not serious. fun is always good

if you come across serious when you say it though, you might end up looking like a tryhard (she doesn't believe you) or an ******* (she believes you)

as for the third one, I don't understand what you're trying to do

and f283000 your rule has nothing to do with this. he wanted to understand the subcommunication beneath those lines, not get referred to some lame ass rule for needy guys who stalk women
 

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All of those are good and bad...It just depends on the tone of voice you use when saying it
 

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well whenever i say those kinds of things on the phone or inperson she always says "the sad thing is, i can actually see you doing something like" IE. having two phones and whatever...

i just do it in a playful way...and it sounds alot better when its actually happening, its hard to explain on a forum
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Daniel1099 said:
well whenever i say those kinds of things on the phone or inperson she always says "the sad thing is, i can actually see you doing something like" IE. having two phones and whatever...

i just do it in a playful way...and it sounds alot better when its actually happening, its hard to explain on a forum
I understand what you mean. But, some girls will take it seriously and be insecure about it which, wouldn't be good. Cause I've have teased/joked about that around some of my ex's. Some thought it was funny and others took it personal. It depends on the girl and how they react to it.

The only way to figure out whether its good or bad. Is by testing it yourself.
 

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yeah totally...

all in moderation. once in a while she pull an ex-boyfriend joke, so ill throw that out their.

just trying to keep the relationship fun
 

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Daniel1099 said:
il post a series of things a man might say or do to a girl to tease her in the relationship...

you guys tell me if its a good thing or bad, and maybe give an explanation


1. if she cant go out because she has work say..." well i guess ill just have to go call up my other girlfriend..."

BRUTAL TO THE EXTREME. Translation: I consider you a prostitute and just want to pop my cherry. If you are not available, I find someone who is.

2.saying this " well actually i have two phones...one for you, and one for the other girl so you guys cant read eachother texts"

BRUTAL TO THE EXTREME. Translation: I consider you a prostitute and just want to pop my cherry. If you are not available, I find someone who is.

Dude, these statements will make any girl feel worthless and you'll be home alone Saturday night playing 5 on 1. What girl would feel special when she thinks she is the 2nd girl on your list? Would you feel special if a girl said that to you? You would go home and cry.

3.i quickly asked another girl infront of my gf, why should couldnt make it to the movies...we hooked up weeks before i started dating my gf...

I don't understand the above statement.

is it ok to do this kind of stuff???

keep posting questions and answers if you can!
Maybe your girl eats it up but she won't for long. You have to make girls feel IMPORTANT AND SPECIAL, then you will see some results.
 

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it's only bad if you're dead serious when you say it. but if she wants you bad enough, she'll ignore it

and if you're just having fun, joking when you say it, it's usually fine. I do this ALL THE TIME, FOR FUN, and the girl laughs and plays along, she doesn't cry about it

you're getting a cold response because maybe you got a little bit of a player rep or your girl is a little insecure. or maybe you guys got some semblence of a trust issue there. regardless as long as you address the issue when you communicate with her, it's not gonna make or break anything. don't overanalyze this sht
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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