"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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Good or Bad Idea

pvf94

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Girl I wanna bang comes online, I spark up a convo with her. I have hungout with this girl a few times within the past month. We are basically "friends" After I get the convo going good, funny and all that...I let her know that I gotta leave because im heading out with another girl. I mention that the girl is completly hot, and fun as hell to hangout with.

The thing is, I wont really be going out with anybody at all =P

I wonder if this is a good idea. I want to make my girl "Friend" jealous of the other girl.....or anything similiar to that. Lemme know what you think, or what would most likely happen if i did this.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Well . . .

From where I'm sitting, there are a few possibilites.

1. She gets somewhat jealous, and pursues you more so then the has before. (Best outcome)

2. She gets pissed at you and decides to move onto another guy. (Worst outcome)

3. This was an AIM conversation, so she decides to for the most part ignore it. (Most likely outcome)

Without more details I it's impossible to say more.

Good luck, keep us posted on what transpires.


-E.Nigma
 

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MisterNigma, what further details do you require?
 

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Bad Idea.

I'm going to get all deep and meaningful, but don't freak out!

Lying should be avoided. Not just because you are decieving another person but by lying you are making an admission to yourself that the REAL you isn't good enough. You are undermining your own confidence and stunting your own growth.

Seriously dude, you don't have to make up sh*t to get girls. I'm sure there are a zillion other ways you could attract her. Do you really want to trick a girl into liking you?

You can have an even more powerful effect by just saying "I have to go." and be vague about it. She will suspect another girl. This will get the attraction going without the "well f*ck you!" element.

Finally although making girls jealous causes them to feel stronger attraction and increases your percieved value its not the best way to get girls.

For example; I was at one of my best friends party. There were three girls I had made love to recently in attendance. I though I was the man and it would be a good idea to play them off against each other.

Sure it was obvious that I got under their skin with that kind of immature behaviour. But they soon taught me that girls can play the jealousy game too, with even less effort. Two of those girls hooked up with other guys. The third didn't talk to me for a few weeks.

Its much better to get girls into positive states of attraction than negative.

If you wanna get out of the friendzone bust a move.

JJ
 

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Stop and Think

You know this girl better then anybody on this forum possibly can, so you should be able to predict her behaviour better as well.

First, is she the jealous type? or does she have a very laid back attitude, or something in between?

Second, and most important, do you think she took you seriously?

Third in your message, did you conver "I'm going to hang out" or "I'm going on a date" big difference here.

Bottom line, as I already said, you know her better then anyone. I wouldn't reccomend dropping a line like "I gtg i'm gonna go hand out with this girl" on AIM, you can't gauge her reaction.

The only recouse as far as I see, is talk to her, pretend like nothing happened, see how she behaves, and go from there.


-E.Nigma
 

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MisterNigma said:
You know this girl better then anybody on this forum possibly can, so you should be able to predict her behaviour better as well.

First, is she the jealous type? or does she have a very laid back attitude, or something in between?

Second, and most important, do you think she took you seriously?

Third in your message, did you conver "I'm going to hang out" or "I'm going on a date" big difference here.

Bottom line, as I already said, you know her better then anyone. I wouldn't reccomend dropping a line like "I gtg i'm gonna go hand out with this girl" on AIM, you can't gauge her reaction.

The only recouse as far as I see, is talk to her, pretend like nothing happened, see how she behaves, and go from there.


-E.Nigma
Did I forget to mention that this is a "plan" that has not taken place yet? :rock:
 

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pvf94 said:
Did I forget to mention that this is a "plan" that has not taken place yet? :rock:
If I could I'd slap you through the internet :trouble:

Well, you definately have some ideas about what to do know. Issues of morality when it come to women, never bother me, so I say go for it.


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MisterNigma said:
If I could I'd slap you through the internet :trouble:

Well, you definately have some ideas about what to do know. Issues of morality when it come to women, never bother me, so I say go for it.


-E.Nigma
You can E-Slap me =P *Turns cheek..*

Thanks for the advice jay and nigma.
 

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Sounds tryhard to me... Not necessary to lie, but do what ya gotta do


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Cod3r said:
Sounds tryhard to me... Not necessary to lie, but do what ya gotta do


-Cod3r
If It is not necassary to lie, can you come up with an alternative? Something similiar? I got a few ideas floating around myself..
 

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