"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Good or Bad Idea

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Girl I wanna bang comes online, I spark up a convo with her. I have hungout with this girl a few times within the past month. We are basically "friends" After I get the convo going good, funny and all that...I let her know that I gotta leave because im heading out with another girl. I mention that the girl is completly hot, and fun as hell to hangout with.

The thing is, I wont really be going out with anybody at all =P

I wonder if this is a good idea. I want to make my girl "Friend" jealous of the other girl.....or anything similiar to that. Lemme know what you think, or what would most likely happen if i did this.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well . . .

From where I'm sitting, there are a few possibilites.

1. She gets somewhat jealous, and pursues you more so then the has before. (Best outcome)

2. She gets pissed at you and decides to move onto another guy. (Worst outcome)

3. This was an AIM conversation, so she decides to for the most part ignore it. (Most likely outcome)

Without more details I it's impossible to say more.

Good luck, keep us posted on what transpires.


-E.Nigma
 

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MisterNigma, what further details do you require?
 

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Bad Idea.

I'm going to get all deep and meaningful, but don't freak out!

Lying should be avoided. Not just because you are decieving another person but by lying you are making an admission to yourself that the REAL you isn't good enough. You are undermining your own confidence and stunting your own growth.

Seriously dude, you don't have to make up sh*t to get girls. I'm sure there are a zillion other ways you could attract her. Do you really want to trick a girl into liking you?

You can have an even more powerful effect by just saying "I have to go." and be vague about it. She will suspect another girl. This will get the attraction going without the "well f*ck you!" element.

Finally although making girls jealous causes them to feel stronger attraction and increases your percieved value its not the best way to get girls.

For example; I was at one of my best friends party. There were three girls I had made love to recently in attendance. I though I was the man and it would be a good idea to play them off against each other.

Sure it was obvious that I got under their skin with that kind of immature behaviour. But they soon taught me that girls can play the jealousy game too, with even less effort. Two of those girls hooked up with other guys. The third didn't talk to me for a few weeks.

Its much better to get girls into positive states of attraction than negative.

If you wanna get out of the friendzone bust a move.

JJ
 

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Stop and Think

You know this girl better then anybody on this forum possibly can, so you should be able to predict her behaviour better as well.

First, is she the jealous type? or does she have a very laid back attitude, or something in between?

Second, and most important, do you think she took you seriously?

Third in your message, did you conver "I'm going to hang out" or "I'm going on a date" big difference here.

Bottom line, as I already said, you know her better then anyone. I wouldn't reccomend dropping a line like "I gtg i'm gonna go hand out with this girl" on AIM, you can't gauge her reaction.

The only recouse as far as I see, is talk to her, pretend like nothing happened, see how she behaves, and go from there.


-E.Nigma
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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MisterNigma said:
You know this girl better then anybody on this forum possibly can, so you should be able to predict her behaviour better as well.

First, is she the jealous type? or does she have a very laid back attitude, or something in between?

Second, and most important, do you think she took you seriously?

Third in your message, did you conver "I'm going to hang out" or "I'm going on a date" big difference here.

Bottom line, as I already said, you know her better then anyone. I wouldn't reccomend dropping a line like "I gtg i'm gonna go hand out with this girl" on AIM, you can't gauge her reaction.

The only recouse as far as I see, is talk to her, pretend like nothing happened, see how she behaves, and go from there.


-E.Nigma
Did I forget to mention that this is a "plan" that has not taken place yet? :rock:
 

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pvf94 said:
Did I forget to mention that this is a "plan" that has not taken place yet? :rock:
If I could I'd slap you through the internet :trouble:

Well, you definately have some ideas about what to do know. Issues of morality when it come to women, never bother me, so I say go for it.


-E.Nigma
 

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MisterNigma said:
If I could I'd slap you through the internet :trouble:

Well, you definately have some ideas about what to do know. Issues of morality when it come to women, never bother me, so I say go for it.


-E.Nigma
You can E-Slap me =P *Turns cheek..*

Thanks for the advice jay and nigma.
 

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Sounds tryhard to me... Not necessary to lie, but do what ya gotta do


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Cod3r said:
Sounds tryhard to me... Not necessary to lie, but do what ya gotta do


-Cod3r
If It is not necassary to lie, can you come up with an alternative? Something similiar? I got a few ideas floating around myself..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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