Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Good Opinion Opener

I'm Joe Dirt

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I was re-listening to David DeAngelo's Mastery series and he mentioned something about women dressing up hot to compete with other women rather than trying to attract guys.

I figure this would make a good opinion opener:

"hey let me ask you something, do you think girls dress up all hot to attract guys or to compete with other women?"

If she says to attract guys, say "well what about the girls with boyfriends or husbands who still dress up all hot, I don't think they need to or want to attract more guys.."

If she says to compete with women say "what about those girls who dress in like low cut pants and stuff... I doubt they want other girls looking at their ass.. besides what are they competeing for anyway.. wouldn't it be the attention of guys?"

If she says both say "oh really? Thats an interesting take. Where do you fit in?"

Then if she is dressed hot you can also add "and what bout your [insert clothing thats hot thats he is wearing], did you pick that out with the 'I'm gonna make all the girls jealous with this!' mentality or 'i wanna make boys stare'? Or were you trying to kill two birds with one stone?"


What do you guys think?

**NOT FIELD TESTED YET**

I am planning on going out with my wingman sometime this week to field test this one...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm Joe Dirt

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Well I like to run things by people before I do them sometimes cause I can usually improve based on people's feedback. That way when I do field test it I'm field testing the best possible version.
 

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youre going up to a stranger and asking them a question, my opinion is

that if a member of the opposite sex did that to me, and i had no inerest in them, and they wern't great looking, id be thinking "wtf, i dont care, bugger off"

but. if they had shown interest and i had shown interest, then its probalby a good opener

or if no interest has been shown and you are an attractive bloke, then it may also possibly work

just my opinion
 

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Originally posted by lordson
youre going up to a stranger and asking them a question, my opinion is

that if a member of the opposite sex did that to me, and i had no inerest in them, and they wern't great looking, id be thinking "wtf, i dont care, bugger off"

but. if they had shown interest and i had shown interest, then its probalby a good opener

or if no interest has been shown and you are an attractive bloke, then it may also possibly work

just my opinion
That's kinda how all openers work. :p
 

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lol...

The whole idea is to get a conversation going with a stranger... without being like every last guy who tried the same feat with no success (i.e. saying "hi im whatever, whats your name?" or "nice shoes")
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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