"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Good old rejection

stonetowers

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And I mean that literally.The very idea of getting turned down use put me on ice.Now that it's actually happened a couple of times,I think,"Hey,this isn't so bad".

The main thing that helped me understand rejection was putting myself in their position.What is the ideal type of man that women fantasize about.I'm pretty sure that the man isn't 330 Lbs with a protruding gut that makes him look pregnant.Just like how my ideal woman isn't 300 lbs with a stomach that hides her p***y.Or their ideal man may not be black(which is what I am,and by the way the type of girl I'm into is rocker types,pinup style,rave girl style.)

So when you look at a guy like me you'd probably assume that my room is covered in tupac posters.Which if that's the case I can definitely understand why they're not interested.

All of this has helped me understand rejection,encouraged my spirit and has taught me not to be beaten by it or even discouraged by it.

Yeah..life is good.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Someone Much cooler

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I'm black. I hate tupac. sterotypes arent really tru. ive been with mo white chicks than black chicks. skater white girls, preppy ones and goth. All types even a few white girls that thought they were ghetto.
 

Kevin Feng

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I couldn't agree more with your post.

Being able to approach without fear is quite possibly the greatest aphrodisiac to a girl.

I actually just made a blog post not too long ago on approaching in general.

The first step for any newbie out there is to be able to get over his approach anxiety. Learning to deal with rejection is absolutely crucial to becoming a good pick up artist, if you can't deal with rejection, there's no way you can leverage the law of large numbers in this game.

That's what makes the game so powerful, is that there are women literally everywhere. Before I got in the game, the only girls I thought I could game were the ones in my social circle, holy crap was I totally wrong, just absolutely dead wrong.

Even though a cold approach is not as good as a warm approach, there are limitless numbers of cold approaches you can make out there whereas warm approaches, more important is to be able to approach well. Check out one of Asian Playboy's older blog posts on approaching with power.

http://theasianplayboy.blogspot.com/2006/05/impact-approach-30-seconds-to-make-it.html

-Kevin
 
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