"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Good old rejection

stonetowers

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And I mean that literally.The very idea of getting turned down use put me on ice.Now that it's actually happened a couple of times,I think,"Hey,this isn't so bad".

The main thing that helped me understand rejection was putting myself in their position.What is the ideal type of man that women fantasize about.I'm pretty sure that the man isn't 330 Lbs with a protruding gut that makes him look pregnant.Just like how my ideal woman isn't 300 lbs with a stomach that hides her p***y.Or their ideal man may not be black(which is what I am,and by the way the type of girl I'm into is rocker types,pinup style,rave girl style.)

So when you look at a guy like me you'd probably assume that my room is covered in tupac posters.Which if that's the case I can definitely understand why they're not interested.

All of this has helped me understand rejection,encouraged my spirit and has taught me not to be beaten by it or even discouraged by it.

Yeah..life is good.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Someone Much cooler

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I'm black. I hate tupac. sterotypes arent really tru. ive been with mo white chicks than black chicks. skater white girls, preppy ones and goth. All types even a few white girls that thought they were ghetto.
 

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I couldn't agree more with your post.

Being able to approach without fear is quite possibly the greatest aphrodisiac to a girl.

I actually just made a blog post not too long ago on approaching in general.

The first step for any newbie out there is to be able to get over his approach anxiety. Learning to deal with rejection is absolutely crucial to becoming a good pick up artist, if you can't deal with rejection, there's no way you can leverage the law of large numbers in this game.

That's what makes the game so powerful, is that there are women literally everywhere. Before I got in the game, the only girls I thought I could game were the ones in my social circle, holy crap was I totally wrong, just absolutely dead wrong.

Even though a cold approach is not as good as a warm approach, there are limitless numbers of cold approaches you can make out there whereas warm approaches, more important is to be able to approach well. Check out one of Asian Playboy's older blog posts on approaching with power.

http://theasianplayboy.blogspot.com/2006/05/impact-approach-30-seconds-to-make-it.html

-Kevin
 
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