Good Luck Chuck

[BigErn]

Hello Fellas,

I finally took the step of joining this forum after reading a lot of your discussions from the side lines. I was interested in finding a forum like yours because like many of you, I'm in search of answers for my private life.

I am 28 years old and I feel like I'm going on 40. I have a lot of tread on my tires and more stories to tell. I have been blessed to have experienced many different types of relationships with some really attractive and unique woman (7+ is my standard, don't usually bang on beer goggles). My greatest type of game is social circle game, or any type of game where i can see the girl regularly and she is within proximity. I struggle with cold approaches, although I have gotten lucky a few times (great stories btw).

Now, although this may seem a little far fetched, every woman that I have slept with (not necessarily had a relationship) went on to enter a LTR with the guy following me and all but 1 have gotten married with that guy. With the most recent one actually asking me to the best man in her wedding lol.

I have gone back and retraced a few of my relationships, and since they where all different and unique, I can't really pin point why this is. Anyways, I felt I had to type this out especially since I've been watching from afar for so long. I appreciate any response or feedback and look forward to learning with you guys.

Peace,
BigErn

 

[Dgwizdal]

Why do your relationships usually end...? If you're doing it right: It may be your exes wanting to settle down in their mid to late 20's with a pandering beta faggot after the hamster spinning rollercoaster ride you took them on in funland grew too heavy for her fragile "you go girl" ego to bare any longer. Aware of her rapidly declining SMV and your stoic emotional unavailability, she has no choice but to settle with a lesser man. Not short thereafter she will reminisce on the five minutes of alpha she had with you while resenting the fruitful, yet unfulfilled life she thought she always wanted with a "nice guy" who loves her unconditionally. :crackup:






Or not...



I've got you beat - a chick I dated a long time ago turned into a lesbian after me hahaha

 

[BigErn]

Haha the very first girl I got was the one I really wanted. The problem is she didn't want me at first.I had no experience with woman before I met her and was what you guys define as an AFC.

She was a transfer from a school nearby and was in sports. I saw her in volleyball practice and quickly was attracted. She was different, red hair, pretty face, sexy body, and looked sorta dangerous lol. Through some maneuvering I introduced myself to her and eventually got the balls to ask her to lunch. She agreed and it went well until she reached in to kiss me as I was about to start my car, I was thrown off and for some reason i backed off. Needless to say, this threw me into the friendzone immediately! (I didn't know this at the time).

Anyways, I spent a lot of time being her little boy toy. I listened to her talk about all her relationships, even as she was sleeping with these guys. I was a sorry individual, now that i think about it. I took her on dates, went over to her house a lot, met her parents, even went to football games with them as she was there with her current guy. I was her best friend. Until I had to go away for school. Longer story short (haha)....I ended up reeling her in and strapped myself in for a hell of a roller coaster ride.

Eventually, we had a very public, embarrassing, and painful break-up. I went into depression for the next 3 years and she began dating men and woman like crazy. I've heard stories from mutual friends about her post-escapades. Point of this story is....this girl went on to date girls after me also!!

Sorry man i have a lot I have to figure out, and I feel better putting it out there. They were all definitely each it's own wild roller coaster ride. Thanks for your reply and boost of confidencel

 

[The_411]

Hello Fellas,

I finally took the step of joining this forum after reading a lot of your discussions from the side lines. I was interested in finding a forum like yours because like many of you, I'm in search of answers for my private life.

I am 28 years old and I feel like I'm going on 40. I have a lot of tread on my tires and more stories to tell. I have been blessed to have experienced many different types of relationships with some really attractive and unique woman (7+ is my standard, don't usually bang on beer goggles). My greatest type of game is social circle game, or any type of game where i can see the girl regularly and she is within proximity. I struggle with cold approaches, although I have gotten lucky a few times (great stories btw).

Now, although this may seem a little far fetched, every woman that I have slept with (not necessarily had a relationship) went on to enter a LTR with the guy following me and all but 1 have gotten married with that guy. With the most recent one actually asking me to the best man in her wedding lol.

I have gone back and retraced a few of my relationships, and since they where all different and unique, I can't really pin point why this is. Anyways, I felt I had to type this out especially since I've been watching from afar for so long. I appreciate any response or feedback and look forward to learning with you guys.

Peace,
BigErn

Assuming you are dating women close in proximity age wise it's not too uncanny because women quickly realize that their born on date comes up real quick and if they're not having children by 30 their value decreases radpily. Once they hit 35 they're pretty much done with a few exceptions.

You probably don't project that you are rady to settle down or alternatively you project that you are too eager to settle down. (I rather doubt the latter, but it's a possibility).

You may also might be picking women who fit certain physial criteria but don't match what you need from an emotional/intellectual level.

 

[BigErn]

Assuming you are dating women close in proximity age wise it's not too uncanny because women quickly realize that their born on date comes up real quick and if they're not having children by 30 their value decreases radpily. Once they hit 35 they're pretty much done with a few exceptions.

You probably don't project that you are rady to settle down or alternatively you project that you are too eager to settle down. (I rather doubt the latter, but it's a possibility).

You may also might be picking women who fit certain physial criteria but don't match what you need from an emotional/intellectual level.

Thanks for your insight 411.

I started dating and pursuing woman aggressively when I was a senior in high school. I never believed in the whole "puvvy is puvvy" routine, I've always been picky about the girls I start talking to. I don't have a certain type (at least i don't think so). I am instantly attracted to a good looking woman with high wit and ability to bounce the ball back when I'm playing with her.

This has been a trend for me for the last 10 years. But i think what you said about appearing too ready/not ready makes some sense. I "spin plates" but usually am only seeing one girl at a time. I have other girls to text on the side and call (usually some of my old ex's) but on 2 of the relationships I would catch myself feeling needy, jealous, and dependent.