Good looking = lack of personality, whats your take?

[ScrewIt]

The majority of stereotypes and media attempt at portraying this phenomenon. But is it really true?

I understand a lot of hb8+ can be pretty ditzy and lack a variety of content to talk about other than their friends, partying habits, and shopping. But perhaps half if not all are appearing like this.
I attend a college that the ratio of men to women are probably 2:6 or 3:6 from what ive seen so far. And a lot of them are like this from the ones ive encountered.

And a lot of average looking girls ive met over the years seem to posess more personality than those hotties ever would. Sure for a quick lay the hotties would serve well. But for a LTR, an average girl seems better suited.

But is there really a reason for their lack of personality? maybe they rely on their looks to get ppl to talk to them and that theyve never adapted better speech abilities to prepar them for smarter and wittier personalities.

If this is true for the woman, then it may as well be true for the man.

 

[Enjin 7]

me and a friend of mine had a long discussion about this topic a while back. we have the most philosophical discussion ever. i feel like we are like aristotle and socrates or something.

anyway, we concluded that hot women dont really have to work on their social skills as much as ugly women. reason being that with looks get them by just as much or more than an average girl with a great personality. average women have to have better social skills to obtain the same level as hot women.

humans, by nature, being lazy, tend to do only what is necessary, therefore the better looking women tend to just use what is natural, or in some cases easily attainable beauty over someone difficult social skills.

 

[driveon]

Originally posted by Enjin 7
humans, by nature, being lazy, tend to do only what is necessary, therefore the better looking women tend to just use what is natural, or in some cases easily attainable beauty over someone difficult social skills.

Although that was written rather badly, that is a brilliant observation. It's not laziness, it's evolution.

In accomplishing a task, there is no reason to go beyond what is necessary.

A really beautiful woman doesn't need to do much to get positive attention. Why should she take the time to develop social skills.

If I had 90% of the women on this planet approaching me, feeling intimidated by me, and trying to seek my approval, I'd probably spend my time shopping, talking to friends, and going to parties too...

 

[ShizamDaMan]

Wait until you find a girl with looks and a kick ass personality. That's when you know she's worth your DJ time.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Good looking = lack of personality

Sadly, this is usually the case. I was fortunate enough to date a HB9 (probably a 10 for many guys if looks are the only consideration) this summer. She looks like a lingerie model. She's also dull as can be, a total flake, talks non-stop about nothing, and on our last date coming back from the movies she goes, "I got popcorn in mah teeth." I look over and her entire fist is buried in her mouth, picking her teeth. Hot chicks don't need no etiquette.

 

[CLOONEY]

What a load of absolute bullsh*t!!

I have dated some gorgous woman who have great personalities! Some are shy, most are insecure, they have hobbies, have their own sense of humor, work or study, want to travel, enjoy having fun with their friends. How does that differ from ugly or average girls? Some are vain and thus, you dont get to know them, but doesnt mean they have worse personalities, either way, if they are vain and arrogant, its better not to know them! But its usually the ones who are like 7s who have the issues! Most stunners are awesome girls who are usually very friendly to everyone!

 

[Fender]

Lol, I hate to say this, but

we men don't like intelligent chicks, we like intelligent LOOKING chicks.

I really do believe looks and personality are interlinked through our genes and environment. ie. 99.9% of the time, intelligent LOOKING chicks really ARE intelligent. Sometimes, when you look at a picture, you can sort of tell that she's "introverted" or "talkative" or "optimistic" or other personality traits. This is natures "code" in helping us choose a mate. If we actually had to make friends and talk with EACH AND EVERY SINGLE woman just to see if they have a good personality, it would take us 10 billion years just to find a suitabel mate!

Looks are the shortcut to a persons character.

I don't mean to be offensive, but most of the time, when I see a beautiful chick, I can see a hint of "bimbo" in her face. But once in a blue moon, a beautiful chick can have the "inteligent, charming fun" look in her face. When that happens, I just go up and do my stuff

And surprisingly, if you change your character, your face will change as well! Both physiologically (how your face muscles contract, etc.) and physically! (proportions of your lip, nose, etc.). Testosterone for example, has been well known to increase jaw size. So if you workout+increase confidence, your jaw size will increase. Girls will pickup on that and will mentally make a note that you are "athletic+confident." What a simple way to choose a mate...

-fender-

 

[Craig Reeves]

Well, as far as I know I haven't found this to be a truly definite rule, as I know some girls who are only moderately attractive end up being the most bimbo-ish and dumb out of the ones who are of extreme beauty.

However, I'm not going to say that this is not completely untrue.

It can make since in a way that in order for an average looking woman to be on the same level and get the same level of attention, validation, and admiration as an attractive woman, her social skills must be at least twice as sharp as the attractive woman.

I know attractive women who can pull a lot of men; I also know average looking women who can accomplish the same task, but it's usually the average looking woman who does this with her personality and the attractive woman who only does this with her looks.

Attractive women have not been forced by the lack of male attention to sharpen their personalities and make themselves more enjoyable to be around, so therefore, they've never developed good social skills. This is highly unfortunate because looks to us is only really good for sex, and once we have gotten that, we start wanting more than just looks in a woman if we are going to continue being with her. This is why a lot of attractive women end up getting "used" more often than women who are not as attractive who can get the same amount of attention from men.

When men meet women, they look for the first POSITIVE things that they can find. I know this one girl who is short and overweight (she isn't ugly or anything, just average so to speak), and I know this other girl who is 5'10, tanned, blonde, and has fake boobs (she is a swimsuit model) - both women seem to get the same amount of attention from men. The tall blonde, however, has far more trouble KEEPING a man around than the average looking girl. The tall model has a very dry and dull personality and lacks substance. The short overweight girl is a lot of fun, outgoing, social savvy, and is extremely funny and mature at the same time. I tell you, she is an absolute blast to hang out with.

The bottom line is: Attractive women rely on their looks -- average women can only get the attention that these attractive women get if they develop personalities that make UP for their lack of good looks against their attractive competition.

 

[arutha]

One thing I've noticed.. When you find one that is good looking and has a fun personality, she is always an AW. Now as soon as I see a chick making jokes and entertaining people like you see some guys doing, I think AW and its pretty much always right.

I'd stick to the average personalities any day.. They can still have fun, and you can make fun of the crap they dribble and make things interesting yourself.

 

[Ouzo]

I think this is also bull****.

I believe you make her personality. I've been best friends with drop dead gorgeous girls and I watch them tramp all over a guy with the worst personality ever.

HOWEVER, she does have a good personality to me. So I believe you make her personality. Meaning you have to bring it out of her ...

Not very in depth ...I'm tired .

 

[BigFoot]

Not true, but it may seem like that at times because the best looking ones don't have to try as much, i.e., they don't have to spend much effort to show their personality.

 

[cyp6]

most hot girls act ditzy to attract guys... i think its part of there seduction thing..

what ever... just a thought..